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Today I was talking with my friend, Hayden. One of the things I like about talking with Hayden is that he probably has more insight into my life than I do. He'll often describe something I do or think in a way that I'd never thought about it, which then gives me something to ponder for a few days, weeks, etc.

Ironically, he's also the one who recommended the two books that made me adopt the MaxDiet, even though he doesn't follow it himself.

Today he asked me if I ever feel like crap.

Anger Management: Meet (Your Personal) Luther

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Workplaces can be stressful places.

Anger is a natural response to stressful stimulus but its how we deal with that anger and how to express that is most important. Anger will pop up in both our I work and personal lives. While anger comes as easily and commonly as the passage of time, how to deal with it is not a common skill. Advice for this particular issue is numerous and sometimes conflicting. Thomas Jefferson, is quoted as stating "When angry count ten before you speak, if very angry, an hundred." I don't know if counting is the best solution, but when you are angry it is important you speak about it.

One solution to managing your anger according to the Mayo Clinic (2011) is using humor to diffuse the situation. If something is bothering you and you are afraid of how to express it, make a joke about it. Then at least you got it off of your chest. My advice is to know that a joke will not always lead to a resolution of the issue. If you try and use humor and don't get the result you were looking for, you will have to address the issue head on.

Just as conflict is necessary in the workplace and in life, so is anger. If a person is afraid of expressing their anger there are ways to do it that are less controversial. According to psychotherapist Beverly Engel of Psychology Today, "The most effective way of expressing this emotion is to translate it into clear, non-blaming statements that establish boundaries. These statements should contain two thoughts: the fact that you are angry and the reason why, and what you want the other person to do about it. A simplified form could be, 'I feel angry because________. I want you to ___________.' " (J. Salagubang, 2004) Avoiding blaming when expressing anger is often recommended as well.

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