I've had a rough week. No deaths in the family or anything seriously bad, but it's been a bit emotionally draining. Finally got in touch with the guy who owns Tynan.com, and he refused to sell to me at any price. A writer I was really hoping to work with decided not to contribute to a project I'm working on. Some girl stuff. And it's been rainy. I'm not complaining, just briefly illustrating how my week has been so far.
The past two days I've sat down to write my thousand words, and it's been frustrating. I sit and stare at my computer, come up with an idea, write three paragraphs, and then get stuck again. I've never before in my life been in a situation where I've started a post and then got a few paragraphs in and lost so much momentum that I can't finish it.
But above this one I have two three-paragraph posts.
So today, after staring off in space for a while, trying to think of solutions to some of the problems that have cropped up this week, I realized that I'd better start my daily writing. I've had a couple days where I tried to write at eleven pm before going to sleep, and that was just brutal.
Tynan, I thought, you've had a stressful past few days. Just take the day off of writing--you're not going to write anything decent with all this stuff on your mind, anyway.
But, obviously, I'm writing now. And trying hard to do a good job. Why? Because I know that what defines a person is how they perform when they're at their worst.
Give someone a healthy dose of inspiration, a solid night's sleep, some snacks and tea, and some peace and quiet, and anyone can write a decent post. But when you're tired, distracted, have personal stuff on your mind, and can't think of a good topic, it's a lot tougher.
Maybe a better example is friendship. When everything's going well in your life and your friend invites you to his skiing cabin in Tahoe, it's easy to be a good friend. When you're broke, your wife just left you, and your friend needs your help getting off drugs, it's a lot harder. But that's the point of being a good friend-being there for someone when they need your help and you're not in a great position to provide it.
So I use that as fuel. When everything's going great, I don't congratulate myself too much, because I know it's easy to perform well when things are going well. And when things are a bit rougher, I use it as motivation, keeping in mind that my performance at that moment is the best indicator of how well I'm living up to my goals.
This was written a week or two ago. Everything's good now. :)
In the middle of writing this a reader spotted me at Samovar and told me how much he liked my blog. Thanks, Will... good timing!
I love your blog... this post particularly. The message is invaluable to me right now. Thank you. Several of your posts, in aggregate, have made me feel less like I am at crossroads and more like I'm just circling around a rotary for a few spins before I decide which route I'm going to take... at least I'm still moving (despite no change in location, liken to a dog chasing its tail). ;)
Love your post! And, I totally agree that performance at your worst is a real test of character. In that regard, I think I have failed miserably lately.
Tynan, you have been a real inspiration for me. Congrats on the domain and twitter name. And, good luck moving forward!
(Side Note: your "like this post" drop down does not work correctly meaning the "Never show again" feature does not work. It shows no matter what and gets a tad bit annoying: sorry)
It was great finally getting a chance to meet you (if briefly) at Samovar. If you're ever in the Mission and interested in grabbing tea, just let me know.
And keep writing dude - even on the shitty days.
I feel you. There are people out there owns the domain in my name. It frustrate me that they are not using it for any purpose but keep on hold and hold.
It is why I will never be a domainer. I want people to own a domain that they will use it rightfully for good reason. May the domain help them achieve a purpose.
It is important to me that they are achieving rather than me making a profit off domains.
I hope you get your as I get mine.
Tynan, check out a book called "Lights Out: Sleep, Sugar, and Survival".
I think you'll find it fascinating, if not one of your favorite new books.
Good post. It's true--your true character is revealed when you respond to adversity. I like the friendship example too.
Good post. It's true, character comes out when you have to deal with adversity. I like the friendship example.
As I've mentioned, I'm not an authority on making money in general, but I do make a livable income through my two books, Make Her Chase You and Life Nomadic. I won't claim to be an expert on writing books, but I definitely have enough experience that I can probably offer a good starting point for anyone interested in doing the same. In this article I'm going to focus on how to actually write the thing, as I've come up with a pretty cool system, and then in the next I'll talk about how to actually publish it and make money.
After leaving Smiley Media, the only real job I've ever had, a friend of mine asked me why I'd never written a book about pickup. I didn't have a good answer, so I went home and decided I'd write the thing. Forty eight hours later the rough draft was completed, and a month later I was selling copies of it. Point is-- writing a book is actually a lot easier than you might expect. If you take my advice, you could easily have most of the hard work done in the next couple days, week, or month. So here's the system:
Step One: Chaotic Outline
###Note: This post is admittedly shitty. I wasn't going to post it. Reason why I did at the bottom. Enjoy! Or don't. Whatever. :)
It's a quarter to three in the afternoon, January 1st. Last night, the simultaneous sounds of fireworks and ambulance sirens made me laugh for some reason.
I just came home from walking the dog. Holy shit there were a lot of people on the running trail. Go figure. Most of them won't be there in a month.
Every year, billions of people see the new year as a chance to start over. Do it better. Achieve their goals, lose weight, make money, start meditating, whatever.
The only reason Jan 1st has any significance is because billions of people have universally agreed that it does. In other words, it's completely irrational. I know this, and at least in a rational sense, most other people do to. There's nothing inherently magical about January 1st. And yet... I feel it all the same. Like, wow, it's 2014. Let's do some epic shit this year!