Everyone's waiting for the right time for something. The right time to quit their job, the right time to ask her out, the right time to travel, or the right time to start a new project.
In a little over a week I leave Austin until June. I have a LOT to do. More than I will get done.
I have to get my RV's engine repaired before the warranty expires and I have to find a place to store the thing while I'm gone. I have a few things to sell on ebay. I have a few pieces of gear I'd like to test out for the new trip.
We're close enough to the departure date that any time I hang out with a friend it may be the last time I hang out with them until the summer. I wanted to get another trip in to LA, but I'm not going to have time now.
"If only I just had one more week..."
That's dangerous thinking. I have a good friend who had been wanting to move to LA for years, but it was never the right time.
She stuck around for a graduation, her niece being born, to save up some more money, and who knows what else.
Finally she realized that it was never going to be the right time and she just moved anyway.
And that's what you have to do.
If you ask me, that's one of the secrets to really living a good life. Any big action is always going to cause some complications. If you wait until there aren't any complications, you may die before you actually do what you want to do.
Life has a funny way of working things out. Or, more accurately, we humans overestimate the importance of little problems. And we're pretty good at dealing with them, too.
It makes sense. If a few things fall off your plate because you take a big step forward, that's a good trade. And the sooner you make THIS trade, the sooner you're ready for the next one.
Are you putting anything off? Have you ever noticed that people's regrets are always things they DIDN'T do? You never hear people saying that they regret throwing caution to the wind and diving headfirst into scary. Why not?
One quote I heard which has always haunted me is, "The one thing you'll regret when you're old is the time you wasted."
Don't waste time. Do it now.
I think you bring up a really awesome point.
That is, being in the present.
There will never be any perfect time in the future because the only perfect timing is now.
Being present, making becoming a PUA so much easier.
Because you stop living in your head and you start acting, breathing and living in the now.
Your past insecurities do not exist now, nor do the future possibilities of rejection, humiliation or failure.
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I agree with this post pretty much completely, and I happily rated it 5 stars. I have ALWAYS lived my life this way. I am 31 now, and I definitely think all the decisions that I made, and then immediately acted on, have ended up being the right ones.
I actually think that as a general philosophy on life, regret is a wasted emotion. Life should be about experiencing as much as you can experience, and trying to fit as much into your life as you possibly can before you get too old/sick/die.
I have progressed in my career to a point far beyond my peers, and have done so because I have always tried for the new job that I thought I wanted. Job in a different city/industry/country? No problem. Apply, fly for interview, get the airline ticket, then work out how I am going to ACTUALLY do it. Whenever I have thought it would be cool to live in a new place, I have just quit my job and made the move. Got a wife beside me that agrees 100% with this lifestyle and we have never looked back.
A lot of what you have been writing lately I have disagreed with (for example The Dip and your decision to focus on one thing (I enjoy having a hand in many things and deriving an exciting variety and balance from all the things combined), but this current post really resounded with me as you are preaching exactly the way I have lived since I left my parents home at 18. (much to their annoyance as they are big on "putting down some roots and really making something of your life"
Dad, what does regret mean?
Well son, a funny thing about regret is that it's better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't done, and by the way, when you see your mom this weekend would you be sure and tell her SATAN SATAN SATAN!!!!
By and large, I think you're right, and this attitude has clearly worked for you. There have been times, though, where I've regretted jumping into something without doing enough research or preparation first.. even PUA.
I'm also stuck in a lot of ways by owning a house I want to sell, and as much as I wish it weren't, now is about the worst time I could possibly try to sell a house.. so I know I have to be patient, unfortunately :(
You been particularly successful with this since you've structured your life for many years around being mobile, but it can take some time to detach and uproot, so to say. I'm working on it though, and trying to reshape my lifestyle for the better so I can go after what I want without too many strings attached. :)
Amen, Tynan! Two quotes that have really changed my way of thinking during the past year:
"YouÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll regret the things you didnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t do more than the ones you did." - Not sure who said this
... and this (which I'm paraphrasing from Tim Ferris' book):
"The traffic lights of life are never going to all be green."
You're always going to have at least one silly excuse why you shouldn't do 'X'. Life's always going to throw you a curveball or two. But that doesn't mean you should ever stop striving to live life to its fullest and follow your dreams.
Whenever my friends are thinking about skipping class to go eat or something I always say "you won't regret going, but you'll regret skipping." word brotha we deeeep
I was more F than A or C, but any way you look at it, I was an AFC. An Average Frustrated Chump. I had a crush on a girl named Renee, who lived on my floor in the dorm.
For weeks I lived in agony, wondering if she liked me. I'd make subtle hints and get back subtle responses which weren't nearly conclusive enough for me to do anything about it.
Things came to a head on Friday night. I had to ask her. Not in person, of course. On AIM.
I don't deserve you. I. don't. deserve. you.
Well that's certainly something I've never been told in my entire life. Not sure if I like it.
I'll back up a bit to explain.
If you've read my first post than you know that I'm bisexual and I currently have a crush on a really (like really) popular girl from school. She's also super super pretty.
Anyways, things between me and her are.. complicated. We talk via whatsapp but it's always me who starts and she answers with just a few words. A normal person would back up, right? Well I would have, if not for the fact that we have kissed and when we meet in real life she comes to me and she invited me to her private party and a lot of other stuff happened. Also, my friends continue to tell me they can see that she likes me a lot.