Everyone's waiting for the right time for something. The right time to quit their job, the right time to ask her out, the right time to travel, or the right time to start a new project.
In a little over a week I leave Austin until June. I have a LOT to do. More than I will get done.
I have to get my RV's engine repaired before the warranty expires and I have to find a place to store the thing while I'm gone. I have a few things to sell on ebay. I have a few pieces of gear I'd like to test out for the new trip.
We're close enough to the departure date that any time I hang out with a friend it may be the last time I hang out with them until the summer. I wanted to get another trip in to LA, but I'm not going to have time now.
"If only I just had one more week..."
That's dangerous thinking. I have a good friend who had been wanting to move to LA for years, but it was never the right time.
She stuck around for a graduation, her niece being born, to save up some more money, and who knows what else.
Finally she realized that it was never going to be the right time and she just moved anyway.
And that's what you have to do.
If you ask me, that's one of the secrets to really living a good life. Any big action is always going to cause some complications. If you wait until there aren't any complications, you may die before you actually do what you want to do.
Life has a funny way of working things out. Or, more accurately, we humans overestimate the importance of little problems. And we're pretty good at dealing with them, too.
It makes sense. If a few things fall off your plate because you take a big step forward, that's a good trade. And the sooner you make THIS trade, the sooner you're ready for the next one.
Are you putting anything off? Have you ever noticed that people's regrets are always things they DIDN'T do? You never hear people saying that they regret throwing caution to the wind and diving headfirst into scary. Why not?
One quote I heard which has always haunted me is, "The one thing you'll regret when you're old is the time you wasted."
Don't waste time. Do it now.
I think you bring up a really awesome point.
That is, being in the present.
There will never be any perfect time in the future because the only perfect timing is now.
Being present, making becoming a PUA so much easier.
Because you stop living in your head and you start acting, breathing and living in the now.
Your past insecurities do not exist now, nor do the future possibilities of rejection, humiliation or failure.
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I agree with this post pretty much completely, and I happily rated it 5 stars. I have ALWAYS lived my life this way. I am 31 now, and I definitely think all the decisions that I made, and then immediately acted on, have ended up being the right ones.
I actually think that as a general philosophy on life, regret is a wasted emotion. Life should be about experiencing as much as you can experience, and trying to fit as much into your life as you possibly can before you get too old/sick/die.
I have progressed in my career to a point far beyond my peers, and have done so because I have always tried for the new job that I thought I wanted. Job in a different city/industry/country? No problem. Apply, fly for interview, get the airline ticket, then work out how I am going to ACTUALLY do it. Whenever I have thought it would be cool to live in a new place, I have just quit my job and made the move. Got a wife beside me that agrees 100% with this lifestyle and we have never looked back.
A lot of what you have been writing lately I have disagreed with (for example The Dip and your decision to focus on one thing (I enjoy having a hand in many things and deriving an exciting variety and balance from all the things combined), but this current post really resounded with me as you are preaching exactly the way I have lived since I left my parents home at 18. (much to their annoyance as they are big on "putting down some roots and really making something of your life"
Dad, what does regret mean?
Well son, a funny thing about regret is that it's better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't done, and by the way, when you see your mom this weekend would you be sure and tell her SATAN SATAN SATAN!!!!
By and large, I think you're right, and this attitude has clearly worked for you. There have been times, though, where I've regretted jumping into something without doing enough research or preparation first.. even PUA.
I'm also stuck in a lot of ways by owning a house I want to sell, and as much as I wish it weren't, now is about the worst time I could possibly try to sell a house.. so I know I have to be patient, unfortunately :(
You been particularly successful with this since you've structured your life for many years around being mobile, but it can take some time to detach and uproot, so to say. I'm working on it though, and trying to reshape my lifestyle for the better so I can go after what I want without too many strings attached. :)
Amen, Tynan! Two quotes that have really changed my way of thinking during the past year:
"YouÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ll regret the things you didnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t do more than the ones you did." - Not sure who said this
... and this (which I'm paraphrasing from Tim Ferris' book):
"The traffic lights of life are never going to all be green."
You're always going to have at least one silly excuse why you shouldn't do 'X'. Life's always going to throw you a curveball or two. But that doesn't mean you should ever stop striving to live life to its fullest and follow your dreams.
Whenever my friends are thinking about skipping class to go eat or something I always say "you won't regret going, but you'll regret skipping." word brotha we deeeep
I'm lying in bed in the RV right now. Yes, I still live here and love it, but that's another story. The only difference between tonight and a normal night is that my bed is flying down the highway at 60mph, headed for the east coast.
My esteem friends and colleagues, Jonah and Krystal, are accompanying me on my first actual road trip in the RV. We're going through the scary bits of America as quickly as possible (Arkansas, for example), and are trying to get to NYC before Krystal's flight on Monday.
I'm going to hopefully meet up with Ross Jeffries, the first "pickup artist" to ever teach seminars, in New York before he leaves. Online he sometimes comes off like a prick, but in real life he's one of the most warm and genuine guys in the community. I'm also going to stop by and say hi to my aunt, uncle, three cousins, and my grandparents who are visiting them.
Since I have no reason what I'm actually gonna type here I decided to just go with this title. It sucks, I know.
Well okay I guess I'm just going to tell a little bit about myself.
- My name is Emma but you can call me Em or whatever you like. Be creative. I dare you.- I'm 19 years old- I'm studying International Media and Entertainment management but after this I want to do my masters in something related to screenwriting.- No I don't actually know what I'm going to do with my life- I'm more of a live in the moment kind of girl. I'll see what life brings to me. (doesn't mean I don't dream about my future though)- English is not my first language (apologies in advance for any annoying mistakes I'm probably going to make)- I love to write. - I'm slightly addicted to television shows and partying.- I'm currently in love with a girl and I have no idea what to do about that.
I get that you want to know more about me and this girl. Well.. let's just say I found out that I was bi last year when I suddenly had a crush on a friend of mine. Okay this totally sucked just so you know. I guess it's always been there I just never realized. Eventually we all got drunk and I told her and urgh it was pretty fucked up but we stayed friends. I think we're pretty good now, as far as possible of course.
Time went by, I kissed some guys (made some mistakes blabla you know it), and well... nothing really happened. I haven't told anyone beside a friend of mine who lives in England and well obviously that girl I had a crush on. My parents sort of know but the last time I tried to bring it up to my mom she got really mad and said it was just a phase. I don't want to make you think that she's a homophobic or something because she's not. She just doesn't really realize that I might be serious about this.