Tynan, I've included a poem below, by Rudyard Kipling, which is an appropriate response to your post. I agree with some of what you wrote, but I feel its important to point out, as Kipling says, both triumph and disaster are imposters. All things are fleeting, both success and failure. And no man will ever BE a huge failure. A man can have failed to achieve a goal, but that is not at all the same thing as "being" a failure. Failure is not a state of being. And our failures do not, and cannot define us, unless we allow them to.
We define ourselves. I choose to define myself based on the manner in which I move through life. I set goals, and I pursue them with all my heart. I constantly learn from my life, and apply those lessons to my next set of decisions. So long as I do that, I will never be a huge failure. Even if I start a business and the business fails, that does not mean I should think of myself as a "huge failure." There is truly no possibility that I will ever "be" a huge failure, unless I choose to fall into a self-centered spiral of pity and negative thinking. And even if SETT were to fall apart, you will never "be" a failure either, not by my definition. You will simply be a man who successfully pursued his goals and who followed his dreams, but who had a few failures in history. A failure is an event, not a person.