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Why not focus on developing even greater self-discipline so that you can enjoy a wider range of activities.  It seems that you're expressing all- or- nothing thinking.  Although we each have a "limited amount of willpower and discipline", we develop greater capacities by challenging ourselves to engage in activities in moderation.  If we don't engage to any extent, we are making decisions that are fear-based.  Also, "things that matter" can include activities that have value for giving us a sense of pleasure and satisfaction vs. being solely accomplishment based.  Just because we feel "temptation" does not mean we have to act upon it.  When we feel tempted to do something and resist because it is not a healthy/ meaningful/moral choice for us, we can trust ourselves to be open to more experiences.

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I remember my college psychology lab in which we trained rats to press a bar for a drop of water.  The focus was on positive reinforcement.  Give a reward (drop of water) as aspects of the behavior were exhibited - first heading in the direction of the bar, then moving towards bar, pressing bar one time, pressing 10 times, etc.  I don't remember negative reinforcement (punishment).  If there were, I probably would have had to switch labs :)

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Reply to Creators and Assemblers

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Consider "creating" more expansively and we are all creators.  We use terms like "create a family" and "create a healthy relationship" and those endeavors call for us to bring forth something that is within us and unique to us.  Engaging, thoughtful conversations with others "creates" new neural pathways. 

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Reply to Pu-erh Tea in Shanghai

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I love this post - savoring all that's held in that moment.

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@ Scott Young. From your site: "Debate is fine, flaming is not. Pretend that this comment form is a discussion taking place in my house. That means I enjoy constructive criticism and polite suggestions. Personal attacks, insults and all-purpose nastiness will be removed especially if it is directed at other people."

Wouldn't want to be a guest in your home!

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Reply to Pictures From Afghanistan

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Love the photos! Bits of color amongst the starkness, the smile of a child, flowers blooming, "a day at the beach", tending to animals, keeping a baby safe...life goes on.

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Reply to How I Solved an Interesting Problem and Made a Web App in 72 Hours

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@Alice - His mother is very proud!

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I remember a particular bet that you made with friends several years ago. They bet that you couldn't run 10 (?) miles and you bet you could. It was a great day seeing the then fairly sedentary Ty run laps around the track and collect the money. Let's see... I bet you can't call your mother every week for one year :)

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One can also recognize that there are many selves contained within the self. Sometimes these aspects are opposites and just recognizing them and allowing them to dialogue can be beneficial. There are times also when we can challenge whose "voice" is speaking to us. Often times these are the voices of an "authority figure" from our past and the messages received may have been negative. Very nice post!

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Reply to Living in a Small RV: Introduction

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Dan and Cylinda, You've already begun your journey! You've already kicked common sense out the door and you've invited in adventure, all that is and can be possible. Enjoy and savor every step of this journey!

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