Paragraph 2 says you're an awesome mother.
Paragraph 2 says you're an awesome mother.
I think I understand what you are trying to say and agree with a lot of points, but not with the generalization.
Taking your first line definition of “treading water” as “putting out effort just to stay where I am”, I find it easy to imagine situations where I would want to do exactly that, and neither “expend effort to move something ahead, or triage it and let it sink”. The key point would be when the marginal returns for additional effort diminish beyond a certain degree.
Take health, for example. Imagine a very fit person with a generally very healthy lifestyle which could only be improved through highly individualized, minute adjustment in small variables, e.g. micronutrient intake. There would not be much sense to take it further, but it would also obviously be a very bad idea to abandon the area. Here, treading water would be a good course of action - keep eating healthy, working out regularly, etc. to maintain the good health.
It gets different when something you only mentioned in the post title is taken into account: “the shore”. For your other example, wealth, it can be a good idea to push well beyond the point of diminishing marginal returns for income to reach a point where you generate said income from your assets with negligible amount of effort.
So you could divide life areas into two categories: Those where it is possible to reach a “shore”, where the effort necessary to maintain satisfactory results is negligible, and those where it is not. In one case, you would be “treading water” to stay at the level you want to stay at (e.g. health), while in the other you are lounging on the metaphorical (or physical, if that’s your thing) beach (e.g. wealth).
Glad you didn't die :)"I like to think that I can do anything if I try hard enough, [...]"Sure that's a good belief, but there are always things that can't be done through willpower alone.It's no use setting yourself unreasonably hard goals (like trekking that trail in less time, without acclimatisation, protection from sun etc...) and then beating yourself up if you fail to achieve them. It's pretty cool that you made it that far.
Tynan,I really like the two paragraphs following"The interesting thing about happiness is that it CAN be one hundred percent self generated."and the two paragraphs following"So if you're always happy, why do anything?".In short: The stuff you wrote about the methods of being happy and of learning about the world in order to make an impact on it. Stuff you write about these topics are pretty much almost very valuable.
On the other hand, I'm not sure I agree with the entire purpose-of-life stuff and wether it is "good" or "bad" to maximize for happiness. And by "I'm not sure I agree" I literally mean that I do not know. These things are highly debatable and require a much deeper coverage than a couple of paragraphs. I suppose you put it there as a premise for contrasting the two... things (States of mind? Internal goals? what are they even? clearly not "emotions" in this case), but since this premise is essential for your evaluation of the two, it leaves the entire message built on a weak foundation.Methaethical questions like this are probably some of the hardest-to-write-about topics there are.
I had similar thoughts reading some of Sebastian Marshall's writings in Ikigai - for example the stuff surrounding that quote you gave. I liked his writing on methods of execution and strategy, but when he offered his views on "the meaning of life", it was not clear to me why he would more in his "right mind" about it than people aiming to maximize the "happiness chemicals in [their] brain".
For the same reason, I think that "The Race" a few months back is one of your weaker posts. All of these do not really answer the "why?" question in a remotely satisfying manner. Or it is just me, and I simply have unreasonably high expectations for explanations!
And to wrap up with some praise so that you do not have to overexert your "gratitude for the challenge"-muscle:"Nine out of Ten", "The Hustler's MBA", "The Most Valuable Day", "Beating Someone at His Own Game", and "Where the Line Is", were all pretty cool posts I could take some good stuff out of and enjoyed reading.
That somehow sounds like a recommendation for a paleo diet.
I think the use of the word "weaknesses" may be partly misleading in this article. Why would you call everything you're not good at a weakness? It might be fitting for things that are important parts of most anyone's life, like finance and social skills. But I would not call developing a broad skill set "working on weaknesses."
Steve Jobs is actually a good example of this... in his Stanford Commencement speech of 2005 he talks about how taking a calligraphy class (of all things) in college greatly contributed to the design of the mac, and that there were many more things like that. So he actually built a broad skillset and did not only focus on some specialized "strength."
Tynan, you keep misspelling serotonin. Usually I don't care too much about typos, but since I saw that one in several of your posts/comments, I thought I'd point it out to you. I love most of your posts, but if you are throwing around scientific terms, misspelling them might harm your credibility.
Sorry for grammar/spelling naziing, but I just often observe in myself that I seem to take texts less serious the more errors they contain, unless it is clear that it is only a rough draft of something.
On a sidenote: Am I right in that it is only possible to search the actual posts, not the comments, with the search bar on the main page?
This thing is absolutely amazing. So much awesome in so little space...The idea of living in an RV like that seems very appealing to me, but I'm not sure how it would work out for me. I'm 6'8". That seems to be a problem.Chris
Thanks. Maybe I wouldn't really mind not being able to stand... What about the bed though? I'm fine with my feet dangling out a little, but once it's large parts of my lower leg it starts to get uncomfortable. I can't seem to find the size of matresses for a vehicle like that online. Then, again, I'm German and my RV googling vocabulary is not my strong point.
I agree. I kinda like being tall, but considering all the often major inconveniences it causes, I would definitely give away a good amount of my height. The standard height of doors in Germany is about 1 inch less than mine. Ouch. My brother, who is about the same height but has longer legs, can not sit in economy class seats in airplanes. Only the emergency exit seats work, and they cost extra or aren't even bookable in advance. So it's good that tall people get paid more!I've accepted my disability :-)