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2009 BTYB Survey Extravaganza

Around this time last year I asked for readers to fill a survey. One hundred and thirty people participated and really helped me understand what readers are looking for.

I used to be obsessed with getting a lot of readers, but I've been thinking lately that connecting with my existing readers is a lot more important. This stems partly from the nagging feeling that people who come here aren't getting everything they want out of the experience. Still, they're coming back, which means that they probably feel like I have the ability to deliver it.

So this year's survey is to help me understand better what BTYB means to people. I've kept it as short as possible in the hopes that many people (that means you!) will take the time to fill it out. Feel free to write one sentence or pages,I will give every submission my full attention and consideration, and I often make changes based on a single person's opinion.

The Most Important Thing in The World

A couple weeks ago I did an "I Am A" on Reddit about being a former pickup artist, which meant that thousands of people could ask me questions about it. And they did. The questions flooded in faster than I could reasonably respond to them, which meant that sometimes I didn't answer in as much detail as I should have.

In a hurry to finish a question I wrote "There's more to life than picking up girls, of course, but I'd say that social skills are probably THE most important thing in life."

It struck me as an obvious statement, one that wouldn't need justification even if I had the time to provide it. Some people agreed, but a couple violently disagreed with me.