It's easy to analyze when things go poorly, but that it doesn't come as naturally when things are going well. When things are good it's very easy to just brush it away by assuming that the success was somehow due to you. I know I've thought that many times, especially when I was younger.
As I've thought about some recent successes, I've thought about the value of putting myself out there, making myself vulnerable to failure, with the aim of increasing my exposure to good things happening.
There are a lot of things that you can do to increase the chance of good things happening to you.
If you're dating, you're going to have the best chance at meeting someone good if you're on every dating site, always messaging people, and strike up conversations in real life with strangers you find attractive. You're going to face a lot of rejection that way, but that's the (relatively low) cost you pay to drastically increase your chances at meeting someone good.
In your career you can ask for more responsibility, ask for raises, ask for help when you aren't mastering something, and apply to new jobs. You'll get rejected frequently, but when an appropriate step up is available, you'll be the one to get it.
Even in friendships this is true. If you proactively go out and try to make friends and take responsibility for organizing trips and meetups with them, you'll end up with a great circle of friends. But, of course, you'll face some rejection on the way.
This idea is similar to the idea that taking risks is good, but a little different. In this case your only downside is getting your feelings a little bit hurt. The important point is that you can take lots of these "risks" because none of them are actually inviting bad outcomes. And the more you take, the better things will go for you in the long run.
Think about your successes. I suspect that many of them were the result of you making yourself vulnerable. Think about those areas where you're not putting yourself out there. What would it look like if you decided to change that? Would it be worth it?
We each have a net that will catch some number of opportunities. The cost of increasing the size of that net is by exposing ourselves to the possibility of rejection and slight embarrassment. That's a pretty good trade in my book.
Photo is a corner view of the Basilica on my last day in Budapest.
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I've noticed a trend in my life where I've definitely put myself out there on a more consistent basis now. Sometimes I falter, but overall, it's improving. <a href="https://www.agllifestyles.com/when-did-you-lose-your-virginity/"></a>
And just like that another year has passed! Every year of my life has been better than the last. I used to believe that this was a nearly universal experience, as every year you should become smarter, learn from your mistakes, build on your successes, deepen your relationships, etc. But I talked to some people who told me that their years are up and down. Very hard to comprehend, barring some major death or catastrophe.
Anyway, I like to write my annual wrap-up because it helps me get perspective on what I was able to do in a year, how I progressed, how I met or missed my goals, and it lets me set a little bit of direction for the next year.
I really fell in love with Budapest as I mentioned in my annual wrap-up post last year. In May I had the idea to buy a place there with friends (not so original, as I've already done things like this), and I went there in August. Within six weeks we had closed and moved into the new place!
When 2014 came around, I decided that I was actually going to set a New Years resolution. The only thing that I could come up with, that I knew I would pursue without fail was: To follow my passion and quit doing things that wouldn't make me happy.
As the year has progressed and I have fully committed to my resolution, I have continued tacking on little things here and there, to modify & (in my opinion) improve my resolution.
#1: Recognize my faults & try to change them
By far, one of my biggest faults in the past has been my inability to recognize my faults. Sadly, when you don't acknowledge your own faults, you inevitably do not end up investing the effort into changing them.
2014 has seen a new version of me. The one that sits down and looks at past and present situations as objectively as possible to determine what I genuinely did incorrectly or what I could have done better.