And just like that another year has passed! Every year of my life has been better than the last. I used to believe that this was a nearly universal experience, as every year you should become smarter, learn from your mistakes, build on your successes, deepen your relationships, etc. But I talked to some people who told me that their years are up and down. Very hard to comprehend, barring some major death or catastrophe.
Anyway, I like to write my annual wrap-up because it helps me get perspective on what I was able to do in a year, how I progressed, how I met or missed my goals, and it lets me set a little bit of direction for the next year.
I really fell in love with Budapest as I mentioned in my annual wrap-up post last year. In May I had the idea to buy a place there with friends (not so original, as I've already done things like this), and I went there in August. Within six weeks we had closed and moved into the new place!
It feels great to have some gravity with friends there, and to get to know such an interesting city on a deeper level. Besides buying a place I also spent six weeks there, which is by far the longest I've spent in one place in three or four years.
I visited seven new countries (Denmark, Estonia, New Caledonia, Fiji, Vanuatu, Australia, New Zealand), most of them on cruises. I get a different number every time I tally it up, but I think I've been to 75-80 countries now. There's obviously plenty more out there for me to see, but I do feel like I've hit the point of diminishing returns, where it's more beneficial to get to know some of my favorite countries better than it is to seek out new places.
I did MUCH better with travel this year than last. No solo trips where I was left wondering why I even went, no overextending myself, no booking trips and then canceling them later.
I spent some real quality time with some of my best friends in Tokyo, the island, Cambodia, Paris, Budapest (11 people visited at various times!), London, New Zealand, and on cruises.
I went on two long cruises, one 24 day cruise with my good friend Leo and one 12 day cruise with my good friend Nick and his family. Cruises are my favorite place to spend time with people.
Overall I was really happy with travel this year. I think I did a good job being discplined and only going on trips that were a really good use of time and money.
I finished the writing bet, which dictated that I had to write one blog post per day (but not post it). In retrospect I shouldn't have made this bet as I think I'm not sure it was overall positive, but I'm proud that I stuck with it and completed it.
Last year I wrote that I wasn't able to improve CruiseSheet, but this year was different. It now makes 5-10x what it made last year. That's still not a huge amount of money, but I'm very happy with how it's going. I like working on CruiseSheet, and I think I can get it up by another 5-10x this year if I focus.
Wrote Around the World in Fifteen Friends
I wrote just one short book this year called Around the World in Fifteen Friends. It was very different from my normal books, as it's a collection of fifteen short stories about friends I met while traveling and the adventures we had.
Sales have been terrible (like a fraction of my normal books), but reviews on Amazon are all five stars. Would have hoped for better sales, but I'm still glad I wrote it. If you like the stories on my blog you'll definitely like it, so maybe check it out?
Lots of progress on Vegas this year. My place is almost fully renovated, as I made a big push to finish by the end of the year. The (ridiculous) bathroom renovation is done, I replaced all of the flooring with wood by myself, I wood paneled some of the walls, etc. I actually don't remember what of the other stuff I did this year. The point is that now it feels great to be there and I don't have any huge projects looming.
The neighborhood takeover has also progressed. We had two units last year, and now we have five and a waiting list for new ones that pop up. I think we may have hit critical mass in terms of having enough interested parties with interested friends that we'll get every single good one that goes up for sale. It's pretty cool that usually at least one person is in Vegas when I'm there. I think it's pretty cool that I'm solving the "Vegas doesn't have as many quality people as other cities" by importing them.
I've also really enjoyed hosting my friends in Vegas. Several good friends have come to stay with me. For years when I just had the RV I couldn't really host people, but would always crash at their places. I'm glad to be able to pay it back/forward, and I like showing people the "local" side of Vegas.
Dating was so-so. I dated someone briefly in the beginning of the year, but it didn't last very long. Since then I've been more actively dating, but haven't met anyone I think I'd be a really great long-term match with.
I had two big dating failures this year. One was a girl with whom I had two dates, both of which I thought went excellently. Like, even in retrospect I can't think of much I'd do differently. Then despite inviting me to something during the second date (I was busy), never replied again. I'm assuming she either had an ex come back into the picture (my general assumption when something inexplicable happens), or maybe googled me and found out about pickup and freaked out. That happens sometimes. Anyway, she probably wasn't a great long term match, but when something like that goes wrong it makes me think about what I could have done differently.
The second was with a girl to whom a friend introduced me. We met once, then I left for a trip for six weeks and she started dating someone else. We still spent some time together when I got back but she was in that weird gray area where they weren't officially dating but may as well have been. I made a half-hearted attempt at that point, but should have just gone full bore or decided to leave it alone. Doing anything halfway is sort of dumb. I don't know that it would have worked with her, but she's definitely the girl with whom I most compatible who I haven't dated.
Many dates went really well too, but for some reason it seems more appropriate to talk about the failures. I think on one level my dating life is pretty good, but it doesn't feel to me like the time and focus I spend on it is necessarily worth it. Definitely something I'll be thinking about this year.
A reader contacted me and offered me enough money to coach her on an ongoing basis that I was willing to put aside my aversion to scheduling regular things. This has turned out to be one of the more satisfying new things I've undertaken this year. To protect her privacy I won't share any specific details, but she's made really huge strides in all major areas of her life, including hitting a bunch of new milestones. The primary reason for this is the hard work she's put in, but I do feel like our one hour per month has had a really big impact as well.
I love hearing about her progress every month and feeling like I'm making a difference in someone's life, so I may take on one or two more coaching clients this year.
I was doing really great with workouts this year, getting up to 170lb at one point, which was an all-time high. But then I sprained my ankle really badly four months ago (it still hurts) and I haven't worked out ever since. Realistically I should have kept working out, at least on a limited basis, but I think I used the injury as an excuse to scrap the whole thing because I didn't want to deal with joining a gym in Budapest.
This was a really good year for the island. We really turned a corner and went from roughing it to sustainable comfort. It's not five stars or anything, but having an outdoor shower, an outhouse, and a boat dock have made it reasonable to spend any amount of time on the island. We still have a lot of work to do, but it's now very pleasant to stay there and do the work.
We had our first big trip to the island, hosting five owners and seven guests. I didn't really know what to expect, but the trip went great. We got a ton of work done and everyone had a great time. I look forward to doing more big trips.
I bought four new pieces of art (I had two before). One is a 13th Century Korean celadon bowl with inlay. I love these bowls and always go see them at museums, so I'm so excited to have one. They're very hard to find, especially at reasonable prices, but I got really lucky. Mine is museum quality and I saw one that was nearly identical in the Paris Asian Art Museum.
I also bought three woodblock prints. One was an original Ando Hiroshige of a teahouse. It was originally in the Worcester Art Museum's collection. Another is an Ogata Gekko of outside a teahouse. It's probably my favorite one visually. Last I bought a second lifetime print from Katsushika Hokusai that illustrates a poem about travelers.
Buying art is fun because you get to have a little museum in your house. I find that I appreciate the art more because I can look at it closely every day and even touch it in the case of the bowl. My goal is to very slowly, over time, acquire a lot of museum-quality art that covers my favorite stuff to see. Next I would like to buy a native american porcupine quill box and maybe some Chinese famille-rose ceramics. I also REALLY want Russian malachite, but can't find any I like at decent prices.
I didn't learn too much this year and I'm really proud of that! I have a tendency to spend too much time learning rather than applying what I'm learning. This year I did much better. The only thing I really spent time learning was some Hungarian. I read a bunch of books, too, but mostly I applied what I already knew or learned things as I needed them.
Overall I really had a great year. Last year my goals were to simplify, improve systems, travel less, and find a long-term girlfriend. I did all of those except for find a girlfriend, but I feel like I made a decent effort on that one. I also improved my business a lot, which is something that is tough for me, so I feel good about how it went.
I'm very excited about this next year. Here are some things that I'm looking forward to:
My biggest goal is to take CruiseSheet to the next level. For some reason I'm really good at getting businesses to subsistence level, but really bad at getting them to the next level. That's a wall I want to break through as much for my own personal development as for the money it will bring in.
I'm selling my RV. This one is certainly bittersweet, but it feels like one of those make-the-hard-but-right-decision sort of things. I'm really looking forward to freeing up the money I have invested in it, and to having one less place to deal with. I'm not happy that it may mean I spend less time with my SF friends, but upon reflection I realized that most of the real quality time I spend with them is on trips anyway. If you're interested in buying it and I haven't sent you info, email me.
My family is coming to visit in Budapest! I am so excited about this as traveling with my family is a huge goal of mine. My mother, one aunt and uncle, and one cousin are coming in March, and then another cousin and her boyfriend are coming in May. This will be the first time my family has traveled internationally with me, so this is huge. I'm hoping it's the start of a new era.
I'm planning on building a small personal cabin on the island. It will be less than 400 square feet and will have a nice place to sleep, a tea room, and an office. I'm most excited about turning the island into a place where I can be very productive. I've got my spot picked out and my sister helped me design the cabin, which I think will be really beautiful and functional.
I have a loose goal to not stay in hotels or Airbnbs this year. I won't be super strict on it, but the intent is to focus on my favorite places. I have places in Vegas, Budapest, and Halifax, and then I have friends I stay with in SF (once I get rid of the RV), New York, and Tokyo. Cruises are also great for me, so I hope to take at least two this year.
I'm planning on writing Life Nomadic 2. I wrote the first version six years ago or so and a lot has changed with my own travel style as well as the world. It didn't really occur to me until this year that I am on the bleeding edge of being a digital nomad, and that I should probably write more about it. I'm very excited about this book and I know it's going to change some lives.
I hope that you had an amazing year, and that 2017 will bring both the results of good work and habits as well as unexpected positive surprises. As always, I'm thankful to have you spend a small part of your year reading my writing. I hope I've been able to make a small positive difference in your life.
Photo is Ginza in Tokyo. Every once in a while (maybe weekly?) they shut down the main street, which provides an otherworldly experience walking down the street.
Such a great year retrospective. I really like the way you think! About dating, I'm sure you'll find that perfect someone who will travel the World with you!
Hi Tynan, I'd really be interested in learning more about your condo renovation. Are you planning on writing about this sometime?
Hey Tynan, following your blog since at least 3 years.Always good read! I'm Hungarian so it's nice you like here.
Steam rises from my little glass teapot. It's the fifth brewing of the Tung Ting Oolong, so it's a little bit weak even though the color is still a clear gold. Employees of the tea shop are in front of me, an older couple across the way, and a single girl behind me. In the other room are more groups. The chatter rises above the music, but I can't understand any of it because it's all in Hungarian.
I'm here by myself. Two friends visited, but one had to go home to London, and the other to a conference in Zürich.
I have a tendency, when traveling alone, to stay holed up in my AirBnb. But after a day of that I wanted to get out. This place is perfect. I can drink my tea, feel like I'm around people, but not be distracted by their conversations.
My favorite game to play by myself is to imagine a kid version of myself could see me now. What would he think? Usually he'd just be surprised, I think. How random is it that I'm sitting in Budapest, by myself, writing? It's not significant in any way, but I wouldn't have guessed it, either.
Something I have started to realize since I've began going back to church again is that God has a way. A little while ago I didn't care nothing about being at a church. I saw everyone as hypocrites. My thoughts were also if you were going to tell me who I can and can't be friends with and who I can and can't date, then I have no preference to go to church.
Well on May 4th, before mother's day I visited a wonderful church with a close friend of mine. God had a plan that day. I had been wanting to find a church that approached a certain issue. The issue was unconditional Love. One of the things that was talked about was not point out people's sins. I couldn't tell you everything about that lecture now. But I will tell you the issue that had been on my mind was no longer on my mind. The sermon was not as great as I would have liked it to be. But for once I had heard a sermon I'd been craving to hear. Something I needed to hear.
One of the things that I found to be important is that it wasn't about pointing out everyone else's sins.
This was the first time I attended church since I almost walked out of the church I had been going to since I was seven. The reason I had almost walked out had a lot to do with I sat through the WORST sermon I think I've ever heard in my life. The preacher had so much anger in his eyes when he looked at me. The preachers eyes hardly ever left my eyes or the persons I was with. The sermon went from one of those "typical sermons you have around the holidays" to being about you should not date someone of a different faith. It started pointing out all the flaws in dating someone of a different faith. But we didn't bring Buddhism, Hinduism, Jewism, or any of that into the lecture. Instead we focused on what the person who was there with me was. The sermon outraged me. The sermon outraged the individual who was with me as well. I almost did leave. The only thing was I knew if I left, he was following me, and I didn't know if the preacher would have more hatred in his eyes, if he would call out something that would start a reaction from either of us or what would happen. So we sat. And we sat. We sat through what was the longest sermon I've ever sat through, with him pointing out all the flaws in dating someone who was Pagan or Wiccan. We sat through hearing how we really shouldn't even be friends. As a Christian I should show grace and love but keep myself separated from the individual. Worst sermon I've sat through.
We left church that day. Snuck out the back. Knowing that the pastor had either been watching my Facebook or saw someone commented on it or someone in the church said something. Cuz otherwise you really wouldn't have known. The guy I was with had nothing on him that said what faith he was. The pastor just picked up on it somewhere because I hadn't advertised it either. Just had what was on my facebook and that was that. I smoked my first puff off a cigarette that day. I was that UPSET about it.