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Exploiting Societal Weaknesses

In poker you often win not by playing your cards, but by playing your opponents cards. My good friend and sometimes poker mentor once told me that to become a winning poker player, you must learn to win the pots that no one has a legitimate claim to. If you have an excellent hand, you'll probably win. If he has an excellent hand, he'll probably win. But if neither of you has a particularly good hand, the pot is up for grabs. It's in situations like these that rather than playing your hand, you focus on your opponents weakness.

In real life, too, I find a lot of value in working from other people's weaknesses, especially societal weaknesses. As urbanization continues along with population growth, standing out from the crowd becomes more and more difficult. Even if you are exceptional, your impression can drown amongst the sea of other people everyone is meeting. The solution, or part of it anyway, is to identify what society at large is bad at, and excel at it. By doing so, you become even more distinct as the field increases.

Here are some examples of ways I try to distance myself from the crowd.

1. Always be on time. Being late has become the standard. I never expect anyone to show up to anything on time, and I'm usually not surprised. Most people won't be terribly late, but five or ten minutes of tardiness is the norm. For the past few months I've made a point of always being on time for everything. A week or two ago I was half an hour late making a phone call, and I still remember it today because it was such an egregious violation of this standard.

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On Getting Real

I have seven minutes to stream of conscious something cause I don't think I'll get another shot at writing today, but I am determined to try and at least keep my mind thinking about writing. Today's observations: I'm an awesome Mom. Darren usually wakes Nila up but since he had an early morning meeting the task fell to me and my chosen form of wake-age was to climb in bed with her, cuddle and then have a tickle contest. It was awesome and the cuddles and giggles were sublime. Observaton #2: I'm a terrible mother. Because we spent so much time cuddling and giggling, we ran short on basic get-ready-time and so the last ten minutes we were together I was a slave driver, impatiently getting her into her shoes and jacket and out the door so we could make it to school in before the late bell rang (I've given up caring about the first bell). Observation #3: I can be a big jerk. I was reading through old messages exchanged between myself and one my facebook friends whose conversation I enjoy immensely, yet as I read back through our exchanges, well, I kind of come off looking like a big, self-absorbed jerk. Course, he's kind of full of himself, too. I'm reminded of a quote from another friend long ago, "Are you so self-absorbed you can't see how self-absorbed I am?" Still, Shame on me. I'll try to do better. Observation #4: Someday, when I grow up, I'm going to be a brilliant writer and psychologist. Alright, one more minute to go...I actually spent most of my day perusing camp options in the area and trying to find the most rewarding experiences for Nila at the best price. This is a huge are and there are a lot, a LOT of options. This is a tough game for a maximiser. Okay. That's time for today.

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