Whew! Superhuman Social Skills is Officially available!
I'd like to hype up this book and tell you how proud I am of it, and how much early readers have liked it, but instead I'll do you one better. If you're reading this on Tuesday September 29th, the book is available for free! Please download it and read it and love it.
Of the books I've written, I think this may be the one with the highest potential to impact lives. I hear all the time about how my other books have changed people's lives, so I'm especially excited to hear about the results from this one. I know firsthand just how important and wonderful it is to have good friends and to be able to get along with people effortlessly, and I'm excited for other people who are working on those things to get there a little quicker.
The book is written in short blog-like chapters, and it covers everything from starting conversations, being comfortable in social situations, making friends, being a good friend, and building your friend group. It's all stuff I do, and a lot of it has never been written about before, as far as I can tell.
If you aren't totally satisfied with your social life, I'm very confident you'll find something useful in the book. One of the common themes in reviews of my books are that they are extremely practical and actionable, and have no fluff or filler. I want you to be able to read my book in a weekend and immediately start getting results.
So head over to Amazon and get your free copy. It will be up to $4.99 tomorrow, so definitely grab it now as it will never be free again.
If you like the book, please write a good review. Reviews, especially the first 100 or so, have a HUGE impact on sales. Trust me-- I'd much rather have a five-star review than the five bucks you'd pay for the book. So if you get the book free, love it, and write about it, we all win.
Last, the book will be coming out on audio through Audible, iTunes, and Amazon! Superhuman By Habit just came out on those channels, but it currently has the wrong file for the first chapter. That will be fixed this week. If you buy it, just listen to the sample audio-- it's actually the first chapter.
The paperback version is also released today. It's listed at $12.99, but Amazon has it (for me at least) at $7.99. I have no control over these price changes and it's unusual for Amazon to drop the price so low. Perfect for launch day!
For fun, I'm going to do special things if you buy a bunch of books. If you want to buy a lot to give away or have a group read, here are some extra incentives:
Buy 5 books and I'll send you another signed one.
Buy 10 books and I'll help you tighten up one of your stories by email. You send me a <1000 word story and I'll write you back with some specific advice on how to tell the story better.
Buy 20 books and we'll do a 45 minute coaching call on anything you want-- social skills, habits, travel, or just chatting.
Buy 50 books and we'll have tea together. You have to get yourself to SF, Vegas, NY, Budapest, or Tokyo while I'm in that place and the tea is on me. We'll spend an hour or so together, working on whatever's important to you, or just hanging out.
I'll do one crazy one, too-- buy 500 books and you get to come to the island for an overnight trip. I'll book you a flight from anywhere in the US/Canada to meet me in Halifax, and I'll bring you to the island where we'll stay for 1-2 nights.
To do any of these, just buy the books and email me the order confirmation as well as a picture of the books when they arrive!
My amazing friend Leo Babauta published an interview with me today about the book and storytelling. You can check it out here!
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After many months of being deprioritized due to Sett and other obligations, I've finally finished my new book on habits, Superhuman by Habit. It's available right now on Amazon.
I've been writing for nine years now, and a good portion of that time has been spent focused on self-improvement. How can I get the most out of life? Out of myself? As I've gone down this path, the answers I've found have coalesced around habit building. Get your habits right, and everything else falls into place.
Doing things when they're the most fun and exciting things to do is easy. Those are the gains that everyone gets. Once we move beyond that, we have to rely on willpower. The problem with willpower is that gains are slow and incremental.
Habits, on the other hand, are the mechanism by which we can leverage our willpower. Rather than relying on willpower for everything, we use it only to build new habits. Once a habit is installed, it uses little to no willpower. That's why I called the book Superhuman by Habit-- habits let us expand our capabilities exponentially. Things that were difficult become easy, and stay that way.
Collecting books is easy to do when you love to read and have a one-click-buy option on Amazon. I know, I had over 1,200 books that we had to bring from England to the Netherlands when we moved here 18 months ago. When one bookcase was full, a trip to IKEA later, I had another to assemble and fill.
You can imagine the physical effort needed to move 1,200 books (it was done by professional movers and they made it look easy, but still you can imagine having to do it yourself). Before we moved I had already given away hundreds of the books, and it was a huge task to sort which ones to keep. It took energy to decide, to pack them up, take them to the charity shop and the experience made me finally realise I needed to change my book-collecting habit. I no longer enjoyed having so many books. Instead of admiring the rows of neatly stacked books, I felt the weight of them was tying me down. I was embarrassed when I realised how much time and money I must have spent and felt guilty for giving them away. I mean - why didn't I just go to the library?
It took time, but 18 months later the original 1,200+ books have been whittled down to just 30 and with a new 'one in, one out' policy in place, they won't increase again. The boxes of rejected books are in the shed, labelled and ready to go back to Amazon to be traded in for vouchers (the ones worth selling), the rest will go to charity (and I still haven't joined the library).
Physical books and libraries will become obsolete as e-readers take over and get better and better. When e-readers were first introduced, I couldn't imagine myself enjoying reading a book on one - I had been reading books for years and curling up on the sofa with a mug of tea and a book was (and still is) my idea of a perfect way to spend an afternoon. I liked the weight of a book (if not too heavy) in my hands and the feel of the paper as I turned the pages. Getting a new book delivered was something to look forward to, unwrapping the packaging and hearing the subtle crack of the spine as you open it to start to read.
I eventually embraced the new technology and bought a Kindle (there's nothing wrong with being a late adopter!), and I haven't looked back - I now prefer to read on an e-reader instead of a book. An e-reader is light, portable, with a long battery life and stores hundreds of books. Taking George R R Martin's A Song of Ice and Fire, Books 1-5 on holiday without it seems unthinkable now.