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Own Your Life

One of the great sacrifices of subjecting kids to school is that it trains them to ask for permission for everything, from turning in work late, to changing to a different class, to more mundane things like going to the bathroom. It's a tradeoff, of course: condition kids to seek permission for everything, and by doing so enable a system to exist where they receive an education.

Maybe that's a worthwhile tradeoff, and maybe it's not. But the real harm in it, in my opinion anyway, is that when we leave school, we're still in the habit of asking permission for everything. That's dangerous.

A manifestation of this that I come across with frequently is the questions that people send me by email. Here's a paraphrased template, which covers a good 60%+ of the emails I get from strangers:

do what you want, give what you need

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In order to love your enemy, you have to identify someone as your enemy.

I was talking to my husband's aunt about some recurring themes in my life, and like a true empath she immediately recognized that I was living in two distinct lies: rejection and abandonment. She said that I keep running away because I'm believing that I am unwanted and unacceptable just as I am. And I need to renounce those things. I need to live in the truth that I am acceptable and lovable just as I am.

When I live in these lies, I classify people in two categories: allies and enemies. Granted, when Jesus addresses the disciples, he's talking about people who are legitimately persecuting them in their cause. But I think sometimes we project false perceptions onto others. We project that they hate us, that they curse us, that they mistreat us. Because I live in this false sense of rejection and abandonment, I interpret people's motives in aggressive and opposing terms. Instead of recognizing sincerity and support, I see the exact opposite.

And so those last words, "Treat others in the same way that you would want them to treat you," it seems like such a simple idea when read. But I had to simplify it even further. So, I came up with this:

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