Comments on: Not Being Angry Ever

By: amn

amn — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 22:35:33 +0000

Eckhart Tolle said it best:

Question: “But if you call some emotions negative, aren’t you really saying that they shouldn’t be
there, that it’s not okay to have those emotions? My understanding is that we should
give ourselves permission to have whatever feelings come up, rather than judge them
as bad or say that we shouldn’t have them. It’s okay to feel resentful; it’s okay to be
angry, irritated, moody, or whatever – otherwise, we get into repression, inner
conflict, or denial. Everything is okay as it is. ”

Eckhart: “Of course. Once a mind pattern, an emotion or a reaction is there, accept it. You were
not conscious enough to have a choice in the matter. That’s not a judgment, just a
fact. If you had a choice, or realized that you do have a choice, would you choose
suffering or joy, ease or unease, peace or conflict? Would you choose a thought or
feeling that cuts you off from your natural state of well-being, the joy of life within?
Any such feeling 1 call negative, which simply means bad. Not in the sense that “You
shouldn’t have done that” but just plain factual bad, like feeling sick in the stomach. “

By: jmast

jmast — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 21:30:46 +0000

a response, is an action, rather than a reaction and produces better outcomes. Essentially, ones own thoughts, words, and actions are the only things one is in total control of. When not controlled it results in an abdication of personal power, and therefore manifest the feeling of being out of control and powerless.

By: jmast

jmast — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 21:30:06 +0000

Just as with any emotion, anger is sometimes justifiable. In my view, trying to control emotions is not healthy. Reacting to emotions is an action without thought. Reacting to anger, even justifiable anger is not productive. Thinking carefully before a response, is an action, rather than a reaction and produces better outcomes. Essentially, ones own thoughts, words, and actions are the only things one is in total control of. When not controlled it results in an abdication of personal power, and therefore manifest the feeling of being out of control and powerless.

By: Don

Don — Tue, 16 Aug 2011 21:35:46 +0000

Getting angry or not is a personal thing. Some people can get by with never getting angry, and that can be a great virtue/strength. I think the main thing to getting angry is that it does not hurt someone, especially purposefully. Also, if one falls into a game of “tit for tat”, he/she may stand to loose more than they have bargained for, including a chunk of their own, hard-earned sense of peace/strength.

By: Genryu

Genryu — Tue, 03 May 2011 19:26:15 +0000

“I don’t ever get angry.”

Yes, that’s a real problem. That stands in your way.

By: mellufr

mellufr — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 16:26:47 +0000

this article makes me so angry :)

By: Victoria

Victoria — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 21:33:24 +0000

A lot of people are saying anger is necessary to get things done. And others on here have said being happy can’t change anything.

But I completely agree with you Tynan. When I was younger, I felt like I had no control over my life, and I had no idea what my purpose was….that led to me lashing out at everyone who said anything that I took as an “injustice”…..but it wasn’t til I turned 17 that I realized justice is in the eye of the beholder and it never helps ANYone to be angry.

You can stand up for yourself and others, while being completely calm. Actually, people tend to listen to you if your calm, than if you’re in a blind rage, or even slightly angry.

I believe if everything is right with them…people should be happy 100% of the time. Even if something bad happens! because when happy people are sad, they cry over loved ones lost, but they get over it and are happy again!

By: krissy

krissy — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 14:28:41 +0000

Anger is such a debatable topic, so i wont go too in depth. I think what we were born with(all human emotions) logged into our system should be used…or else why would they be there? For the people who dont get angry..i envy you. hahaha :p I rarely get angry, but when i do, it feels like the entire world has killed everything of mine, so i feel obligated to kill something of theirs. when i get angry, it isnt just toward the person who did what they did, its towards everyone. i hate it :/ i hope one day i can learn to “control” it. Good article. Loved the insight.

By: amy

amy — Wed, 20 Oct 2010 07:45:19 +0000

I am like you too – I never get angry BUT I disagree about it never being useful. Anger can act as a signal to someone else, a social cue, that what they are doing is wrong and not acceptable. When my children were younger, I used to sometimes #pretend# to be angry when they did something naughty because I did see a useful function in this. Of course, being a complete softie, I loved every single thing they ever did or said….had they known this, it would not have been helpful for them! I do wish that sometimes I would be angry for real as I imagine that other people pick up on this emotion and modify their behaviour accordingly. I have never been angry with my husband and now he has a slight superiority complex!

By: Jan

Jan — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 05:53:00 +0000

I never get angry either. Don’t like the emotion. I always look for something positive in all situations, getting angry to me seems like a waste of energy. I always laugh, I enjoy laughing it makes me feel good, so why would I want to get angry.