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It's a dangerous night to be walking outside. Not for me, but for the tiny little frogs that dot the gravel road. I swish my overpowered Surefire flashlight across the dark gravel trying to avoid stepping on them. When I get close they freeze in their tracks, making them harder to see. This would be a good reflex if I was trying to eat them, but it's working against them tonight.

I'm walking down to the beach for old times' sake. It's 2am and I'm in Milton, Vermont. Calling it a beach is generous. Shale rocks densely scattered over green outcroppings of weeds lead up to murky water. There are a few docks and a few boats pulled up out of the water. They're not locked to anything - they're just sitting there.

I crouch, pick up one of the little green frogs, and watch him slowly climb around my wrist as I rotate it. I probably haven't touched a frog in ten years. Playing with frogs used to be my favorite thing to do when I was in Vermont. I liked to catch them in a bucket and then empty it into the nearby creek and watch them swim away. Sometimes we'd throw them in the air so that they'd land in the lake. That seems a bit inhumane now, but we didn't know better back then. We were kids. I lower my arm to the ground and nudge the frog off of my wrist.

Should You Deactivate Facebook?

On Huan M. Nguyen

Rather than over-generalize, I think it depends on how you use it and who you are.

I deactivated mine in early January, and it's only been good for me. (Full disclosure: I reactivate for five minutes on a monthly basis, in order to download the new 3LAU HAUS mix.) I spend less time being narcissistic and gazing at my own profile (living in my past accomplishments; we should look to the future, not expect to be lauded for what we've already done) and less time being jealous of others' cool lives, or feeling lonely.

There are definitely downsides. It's harder to share links and cool things with friends. It's much more difficult to contact people I'm usually not in contact with. Then again, there are reasons that I'm not usually in contact with them. If we're cool, then we'll spend time together and have each others' numbers anyway.

For me, deactivating once and for all (I did it on and off for a while) was a huge plus. For others, it depends. I know a few friends who keep in touch with a lot of people using it, or seem to have wonderfully busy social lives that are really helped along by the use of Facebook. The latter I can't know for sure, because I'm not living their lives, but it seems like having a Facebook is beneficial for them.

In my case, I waste less time, am forced to make more meaningful connections, and these kinds of benefits far outweigh the convenience and cost (of time and mental load) that was associated with Facebook for me.

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