I always look forward to the first of the month, and ironically it's because there's a bit of work that I do every first that I really look forward to. I write a couple monthly reviews.
One of them is for CruiseSheet, but another is just for life in general. I send it to two friends who usually send me monthly reviews back.
If you feel like you're getting a lot done on a daily basis, that's great. Or maybe it's not. A very common trap, one I've spend a bit of time in myself, is immersing oneself in work that feels important and keeps one busy, but doesn't actually produce anything. This applies to work beyond career — it could also be said about working out, learning, social life, or anything else.
Longer periods of time don't have the same paradox. If you look back at your year and can list all of the things you accomplished that year, they're probably all important. Busy work gets forgotten by the end of the year. A month is similar to a year in this regard. Looking back at a month is usually a pretty good reflection of your progress in life in general.
So I like to write a monthly review to see if I'm on track and to spot areas I'm overlooking. I have the same categories every month, and I'd like to share them and talk about why I include each one.
One of my big goals this year was, for once in my life, to focus on income. I generally have a "do productive things and money will follow" attitude, but I started feeling like I was falling further and further behind my financial goals, which led me to question that assumption. So that's why this section is first. I talk about how much money I made that month and where it came from. This section is usually pretty short — I just want to have an idea of trends here.
Coaching is one of the things I'm most excited about, so here I talk about how many clients I have, the waiting list, some of the more exciting coaching successes (in very anonymous and privacy respecting terms) and things I've learned. The main reason I have a separate section for this is because of the trust people have put into me. A lot of people make big decisions based on my advice, so I make sure coaching is something I'm prioritizing and thinking a lot about.
Here I talk about how my relationship is going (great!), stuff I've learned, and my general optimism for our relationship. These past couple months we've been apart because we both had travel already planned, so recently I've talked about how I was surprised that I felt that we got closer even though we were apart.
My family is incredibly important to me. I know I say it a lot, but I truly believe that my success is largely due to having an excellent family. Specifically, I've always had a large group of people who believed in me, had time for me, and wanted to see me succeed. Now that I'm getting older I've realized that I can contribute back/forward to my family, even just by doing simple things like reaching out and making sure I stay in touch with people and go out of my way to see them.
As someone who travels a lot, I try to take a lot of responsibility for keeping in touch with my friends. I also know that quality time spent with friends is the time I rate most highly, so I keep track of that, too. Usually this section is a list of things I did with my friends that month.
This section is just for random stuff that happens or that I want advice on. For a while it was full of hand-wringing about buying the Bentley, then it was about all of the home projects I did. Sometimes it's a bit forward-looking to record what's occupying my mind.
I always read the previous month's update before writing the new one. By far my most common reaction is, "Wow, a lot has happened since then!" If I ever don't feel that way, that will be a cue to make sure that I'm on track and not drifting.
Consider choosing a couple friends and writing monthly reviews with them. If you can't find anyone, you can even send it to me if you don't mind not getting a reply. It's about an hour per month that helps you stay on track, be grateful for what you've accomplished, and focus on what's important. And now I'm going to write this month's...
Photo is a progress shot of the island cabin. I didn't want to bombard people with photos of it, but a lot of people have asked for more. And... that's basically all I took photos of last month.
I'm pushing Life Nomadic 2 to December so that I can finish it properly on another cruise I'm going on.
Totally random, but if you're interested in buying a 2005 Ducati Monster S2R, I'm selling mine in Vegas. I feel like one "fun" vehicle is more than enough and I don't ride it anymore. It's awesome, though.
Well, just registered and joined you legion off followers after a referral from another site, and so far so good .. Loved the Bentley Blog and thought, .... for an American, this bloke sounds interesting and just a bit 'out there' .. Simcerely though Tynan, I like what you have to say, your insight and opinions, and the way you express them .. Best Regards and Best Wishes from down here!
Would you please update us on financial stuff you've been involved in?
(Peer lending, cryptocurrency, purpose of putting vehicles in an LLC, any new investments and income sources, etc.)
I got involved with Lending Club and BTC after learning from you; both valuable tips, thank you!
I keep tabs of contacts that I want to keep up with by using monicahq.com. I keep certain family members and friends, as well as how often I want to keep in contact with them. I don't have many friends, but it may be useful to those that have more. I have no stake in anyone using this, but I find it useful for when I forget to keep in touch.
I like the idea of using a monthly review, and think I might start one as well.
A little over a year ago a reader bought enough copies of Superhuman Social Skills to get a free one-hour coaching call. The call went well and I could tell that she was serious about making change. I hadn't considered doing coaching on an ongoing basis, but she asked and offered me enough to make it worth my while, so I agreed.
Since then it's been a really great arrangement. She's made tremendous progress so far, I feel invested in her life and enjoy seeing the results of a little bit advice mixed with a lot of diligence and commitment to her goals on her part.
So I'm going to take on two more clients. A good candidate would be someone who has read a lot of my blog and resonates with my way of thinking and my approach to life and is willing to put in the work. I think I have the greatest ability to help with habits, social skills, and living an authentic and satisfying life. If you feel stuck or plateaued or constrained by options, this may be for you.
Here's what my one current client has to say:
I have wanted to do this for a while now, but I didn't know exactly what form it would take. As a huge fan of music and the album format, I always mention to my loving friends and family members, "this is one of my favorite albums." Until now, I've never really made an effort to catalog (which I just found out does not end in "ue" like I thought when I originally typed it) those great albums.
What you should expect:- Stories about me interacting with some of my favorite albums of my life - Stories about my family, friends, and acquaintances that are inextricably part of me - Brief general discussion about the album in general and its importance (or lack thereof) to the rest of the world - References to the host of other things that are connected in the wacky attic I call a brain
What you should not expect:- Reviews. I'm not rating these albums on a scale of 1-10 or giving them stars, dubloons, or any other markers to prove how much I like them. They won't all be classic albums, or even critically good albums, but that's not the point. - Pitchfork style music snobbery. - Oompa Loompa porn. You should definitely not expect any of that.
I'm excited to start this, and I have a lot of ideas for my first few posts. I'm looking forward to the new sett community blogging style, and I hope you, dear reader, will continue to grace me with your presence, comments, and post promotions.