Have you ever noticed that almost no one actually does anything? Somewhere around 99% of people simply tread water in the sea of life, and always seem to be in the same place whenever you check on them. These people aren't dumb or incapable - they're just stuck in a permanent rut.
Listen to people's problems. They're always the same. One person always seems to be just short of rent every month. Another keeps meaning to start some project, but it never materializes. Someone else is always in a bad relationship somehow.
This isn't coincidence or bad luck. If you're in a situation like this, then pay attention : It's your fault.
The easiest in the world to do is complain. So alluring is the complaint that most people choose it over taking action. Observe people around you. How many are actively doing something TODAY that will help them reach their goals? How many will complain some time today about not being where they want to be?
In my experience, there is nothing more powerful than taking massive action. I have many successful friends, and I constantly try to observe what they have in common that less successful people don't have. There are several things I've noticed, but one of the most important is that they all take action.
My friend Steve, who runs Smiley Media, works non stop on his business. If he's at home, he's probably working on it. He dropped out of school to do it. Mystery, Tyler, and other famous Pick up artists go out every night to learn more about meeting women. Very rarely do you see someone who is actually taking massive action on a regular basis who hasn't gotten anywhere. How much action do you think bums are taking? Not much.
Direction is important too, but it doesn't need to be precise. Often people will obsess over every last detail, trying to formulate the perfect plan. This is totally unnecessary, as plans are never followed anyway.
Imagine that you're in Tynanville and you want to get to Springfield. There are two roads, A and B, that both get there. If one person sits around trying to figure out which route is faster, better, or more efficient, and the other person just takes one of the roads, the latter person is going to get their first. Maybe the first person will decide after a while that it's too far away or that there's too much traffic and will never get there. If the second person went in South instead of North he would also never get there, but just knowing the general right direction was enough.
When I wanted to become a professional gambler, I researched but I played at the same time. Within a week I was immersed in gambling and was close to figuring out how to win. If I had spent time overanalyzing everything without getting into the game, I may have never done it.
When I moved to LA to learn pickup I thought I wanted to become a pickup artist. After a while I realized that going out to clubs every night wasn't my lifestyle of choice, but I had learned the confidence and skills that I had really needed.
When I started my first diet two years ago I hadn't done enough research to know that eating meat wasn't healthy. Instead of spending my life researching it while eating hot dogs and french fries I used the best knowledge I had and cut out flour, sugar, and bad fats. A year later when I learned that being Vegan was better, I added those restrictions easily.
Massive action doesn't guarantee success by any means, but it does provide the opportunity for it. When I wrote my book, The Skinny Snob, I jumped right into it. I wrote the book within 24 hours and had the site ready to go in a week. I didn't plan it out, print business cards, and research the market. I ended up making a little money, but in the end the venture fizzled. At least I learned a lot about the game, though, and now when I release my book about meeting women it will be a lot easier.
And hey, I'd rather be doing something than nothing. Just sitting around thinking guarantees failure.
Already since getting fired only 11 days ago I've started a new blog, written a book about meeting women, sold my old house, and have almost built another site that I will launch soon.
If you feel inspired, take some massive action today. It's Sunday, so you're not doing anything else anyway. Buy a house. Start a business. Call your brother that you haven't spoken to in ten years. Break up with your crappy boyfriend and come in my hot tub.
quality. ive been struggling with the same issues. im currently being trained in a private school to just conform and become part of this aimless society. however, im only 17 and having trouble organizing my thoughts as to what i can do about this
The way to do anything is to
1. Make a Picture of what you want
2. Take a Step Towards it.
If you don't take a step, you'll never get anyway, so action is good. But if you don't have a clear picture - or SEVERAL clear pictures - how do you know if you are doing the right thing.
I know a guy... ahem... whose goals are a little bit too abstract... and who gets distracted easily... who knows what would happen if he consistently focused on one picture...
I absolutely agree with this post.
When I retire at the age of 32 filthy rich, the average person will say I got lucky. What the average person won't see (but the people that know me will) was the 80 hour weeks I put in, with 200% dedication to what I'm doing.
Nothing worth doing comes without sacrifice and dedication.
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When I saw the subject line "Massive Action", I was really excited...but it turns out this is about work and stuff. :(
"Paralysis through analysis" is definitely something I am guilty of. But make no mistake: planning is important. (Recall the saying "Fail to plan, then plan to fail".) However, there is a point were the returns you get from planning diminish and further planning will hurt you more than help. The challenge is to recognize this balance point and to do something about it.
Damn man you are right on. I always tell me friends, do something everyday that will bring you one step towards your goals. That way no day is wasted and everyday you are getting better. I mean, with me Im studying PUA or reading about evolutionary psychology (for fun mostly) or studying my field of choice, psychology, or meditating, ect. Point is every day I do something that takes me a step closer to my goals, wether it be my careear, pick up, enlightenment or just looking and feeling my best. I like your whole style of thinking about thing Tynan, you have grasped the concept I am reaching for which is just fully flowing with life so when a chellenge comes you can be a reed in the wind and bend, instead of being a stick and breaking in half.
"Break up with your crappy boyfriend and come in my hot tub."
Taken out of context, this becomes quite humorous.
Great post, I am definently guilty of over planning.
My old yoga teacher used to always say "every journey begins with the first step." thank you for the reminder.
As far as I was concerned, she was perfect. She was at least as smart as I was, was a dancer and had the body to prove it, and had a smile that could disarm the national guard. Let's call her Julie.
So, like an earthworm stalking it's prey, I put my usual game on her. Since my last flowchart was so popular, I've made another one to show you how I dealt with the ladies back then:
Nedless to say, things went slowly. We hung out nearly every day for the last couple months of our Senior year summer vacation. Like many guys, I was totally oblivious to her attraction for me. One morning Julie came over really early while I was still sleeping, and squeezed into my twin bed with me. I woke up, and assumed that she must be tired - it didn't even occur to me that she might like me. Finally on the last week of that vacation she said to me,
I had a subscriber recently email me this question and I found it ironic. For someone who constantly talks about clarity in communication, I kind of dropped the ball on this one. So, here's the answer to where I got the title, "Driver Minded Guy in a Passenger Minded World."
Driver Minded- One of the strongest strengths and weaknesses I have is my "driver" mentality. I am one who likes to get things done, often at the sake of creating awkward silences in planning meetings. Unfortunately, I haven't learned how to totally get around making others uncomfortable when the Driver comes out in me, but I have taken some of the edge off of it. I enjoy planning and creative sessions, but find equal enjoyment in getting action items together and most importantly... DONE! So, as you can imagine, this can create quite the conflict in this head of mine when I know I need to take the RPMs down but can't seem to find a way to do so.
Passenger Minded World- Unfortunately, I have noticed over the last several years the transition of most people to taking a passenger mentality. It seems so many people are afraid to make decisions and feel more comfortable allowing others to make the decision and they simply comply (and complain when no one is looking).
Frankly, these people drive me absolutely crazy. I am one who enjoys progress and a lot of times, have to remind myself not everyone thinks like I do. I also have learned, through many hard knocks, that it really is better to seek to understand prior to being understood.
Passenger minded people drive me crazy because sometimes, they have the best ideas, but just do not want to stick their neck out there. I have been through numerous meetings where I have sat next to a passenger minded person who had the best idea in the room. Had they not sat next to a big mouth like me, the idea would have gone unnoticed.