A situation I run into frequently, including right now, is being around people who would prefer that I not work all the time. They understand what I'm doing and are supportive of it, but they will make short term decisions to avoid me working. In other words, I'm visiting my family and if I were to ask, "Should I go get some work done or have fun with you?" the answer would always be fun.
This happens around friends when traveling sometimes, too. Maybe they came for vacation, but I travel so much that work has to be a regular part of my schedule, even when traveling. Whether with family or friends, it's a tricky balance. I'm not great at maintaining that balance, but I've been doing it for a few weeks, which has surfaced some thoughts on it.
One skill I've found to be really useful is to really be able to discriminate between things that must get done immediately and things that need to be done eventually, but not now. Right now we're moving Sett to a new server. I'm coordinating with Todd, and this is a high priority, so it has to be done now. Other things, like working on my habit book, can be delayed.
On the other end of things, I've been trying to evaluate family activities by a similar measure. Is this really quality time, or are we just sitting in the same room watching a movie? Is my participation central to this activity, or am I just another body in a room?
On 10 in 365
One habit I tried to implement this week was getting up an hour earlier than my kids, so that I would have enough time to shower, get dressed, and do a little exercise before they woke up.
It worked the first day but the second day one of my children got up early, interrupting the little bit of me time I tried to carve out.
I felt a little bit like throwing up my hands and not even trying again. In fact the next two days I didn't I just slept in.
However, today was the 5th day and I tried again, in part because I wanted to give it another shot, and in part because we had somewhere we needed to be early this morning. I wanted to give myself that extra time to prepare before the kids got out of bed.
I took a little extra time to plan to limit the chances I'd wake my kids up early--keeping the lights dim, and some white noise in the background. And, it worked. I had a full hour to get ready and exercise, before needing to launch into taking care of everyone else's needs.