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Own Your Life

One of the great sacrifices of subjecting kids to school is that it trains them to ask for permission for everything, from turning in work late, to changing to a different class, to more mundane things like going to the bathroom. It's a tradeoff, of course: condition kids to seek permission for everything, and by doing so enable a system to exist where they receive an education.

Maybe that's a worthwhile tradeoff, and maybe it's not. But the real harm in it, in my opinion anyway, is that when we leave school, we're still in the habit of asking permission for everything. That's dangerous.

A manifestation of this that I come across with frequently is the questions that people send me by email. Here's a paraphrased template, which covers a good 60%+ of the emails I get from strangers:

Don't waste your 20's: The path to excellence

On Modern Day Rebels

If you're in your 20's, you probably feel like you're going to be in your 20's forever. Can you picture yourself in your 30's? What about your 50's? Probably not. I get the same feeling from time to time, but have learned to develop a certain sense of urgency that allows me to focus on the stuff that matters, and avoid focusing on things that won't be beneficial for me long term.

Now don't get me wrong. I still party on the weekends, and plan to do it for a long time. But I still align partying on the weekends with my goals. How? When I go out, I'm constantly challenging myself and doing stuff that would scare the shit out of most people (Like approaching girls that are surrounded by 5 guys or whatever). But I don't drink, and I don't do drugs. I'm completely sober. And believe me, I'm having more fun than anybody else in the room.

What I mean is that you don't have to stop doing the things that you're supposed to do in your 20's, like going out, to live out your dreams. But you do have to focus on what matters most for you. Because what I have realized is that, in your 20's, most people will try to press you to become what they want you to be. And if your goals aren't clear enough, that's what probably will end up happening.

But maybe you don't know what you want yet or maybe you do know what you want but you don't really know how to get there. Fine, nothing to worry about. But that's not an excuse to play videogames 4 hours a day and get wasted on weekends. Here's what you should do instead:

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