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Today I was talking with my friend, Hayden. One of the things I like about talking with Hayden is that he probably has more insight into my life than I do. He'll often describe something I do or think in a way that I'd never thought about it, which then gives me something to ponder for a few days, weeks, etc.

Ironically, he's also the one who recommended the two books that made me adopt the MaxDiet, even though he doesn't follow it himself.

Today he asked me if I ever feel like crap.

The Desire to Tell

On Chaotically Ordering

I sat down to write tonight's blog post as a "traditional" blog post; I was going to make it a record of my actions for the last month or so. I got approximately two paragraphs in before giving up. I gave up because, as I read what I had written up to that point, I discovered that it was horrifically boring. Reading about anyone's life, the little things that they do and have done to them, is tedious at best. What makes it interesting is their perception of these things, and how it affects them as a person.

People are interesting because we are incredibly varied. I am constantly fascinated by the fact that two people can, and regularly do, go through the same set of events and come out with a completely different reaction, attitude, and general feeling. What makes us human, and what makes us unique, is not what happens to us but how we perceive it. That is where our individuality comes from.

There is a massive societal pressure to be "happy" all the time; happiness is what we should strive for. People have taken this to mean that they should have things happening to them all the time that makes them happy, and they tend to complain when that turns out not to be the case. This, however, is a fallacy; no one has a constant stream of good and happiness-inducing things happen to them. The people that manage to be happy all the time are the ones that have altered their perception of things happening to them.

As a species we are very good at concentrating on the bad things that happen to us while writing off some most of the good things. This makes evolutionary sense; concentrate on the bad things because they're the ones that will kill you. Now, however, as we aren't in constant mortal danger, we concentrate on smaller, less clear cut things. we often let minor details, like the fact that we had to skip breakfast, or our boss getting a bit shirty with us, completely ruin our day.

This is stupid. We are lucky enough to be alive in what is a rapidly advancing, exciting world. Massive things are going on, and we get to be a part of it. Happiness isn't, and shouldn't be, constant, but damn it if it's not really easy to get hold of when we go looking.

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