I'm always grateful for everything in my life, but when I think about what I'm most grateful for this year, family and friends are my immediate focus. I'm incredibly grateful for the people in my life now, the people who have played a role in my life, and for all of the high quality time I'm able to spend with them.
My wife and I have been married for about a year now, and I'm more grateful for her each day. People say that marriage is tough, and I suppose it could be some day, but this first year has really been a breeze. I think she deserves a lot of the credit for that, because I'm stubborn about some things, travel all the time, and am generally a pretty unconventional person. She's handled all of that gracefully and has worked alongside me to constantly make our relationship better.
On our second date I distinctly remember thinking that she would make an excellent partner, and she really has. I'm very grateful to have met her, to have married her, and for all that she does for me and our relationship.
This year family members came and visited in Budapest, Hawaii, and the island. When buying all of these places, one of my fantasies was to have family spend time with me at them, and I'm so grateful that it's become a reality. Each is a little weird in its own way, like having to use an outhouse on the island, and I really appreciate how my family has embraced these places. Highlights have been having six family members stay on the island, having my father and step-mother come to Budapest, and having my brothers come to Hawaii.
I'm very close with my family, and it's been so cool to get to have some adventures together and spend time in different contexts with them. You get to know people in different ways in different places, and that's been a great experience.
Sometimes friends joke about how I'm the only person on the planet who tries not to make new friends. It's sort of true, and I'm only that way because I feel like I already have a collection of the most amazing friends in the world. The rewards for getting to know my friends better always outweigh meeting new people for me. Of course every year I end up making some new friends anyway and am grateful for them too.
This year has been amazing for friends. We've gone on so many cool trips together, purchased a new property together, and have done a bunch of projects together. I think maybe what I'm most grateful for is the integrity of all of my friends. We buy property together on handshake deals, work together, invest together, and have never had any sorts of problems. It's great having a big network of people you know you can trust completely.
I'm also very grateful for the trust my friends place in me. One friend even bought in to the Hawaii house without knowing where in the world we were buying a place so that he could be surprised. We now have about a dozen properties in Las Vegas and are building our own cool community. Most of those friends bought their properties without even seeing them.
Over this past year I've had a lot of meaningful interactions with my readers as well. Most of the people I coach now I was coaching a year ago. I had my first real life event last March and spent some pretty intense time with ten amazing people. I'm very grateful to have such high quality people care about what I have to say and to be able to do work that is so fulfilling to me.
I love spending time by myself, but I think part of what makes that easy is knowing that I have this huge network of incredibly people as part of the fabric of my life. Some of it was complete luck, like the amazing family I was born into and luck played a big part in the rest of it as well. I'm grateful that such high quality people exist on this planet, that I somehow found them, and that I have a lifestyle that enables me to spend so much time with them. Whether you're family, a close friend, a new friend, or even just someone who reads my blog once in a while, thanks for being in my life.
I don't have a formal gratitude practice, but rarely does a day go by where I don't space out and think about all of the things for which I'm grateful. It's a very long list, so there's no danger of running out. We all have good things and bad things in our lives, but by focusing on the good things and thinking about how thankful we are for them we extract all of the benefit out of those things we'v earned and been given. What's the point of having great people around you and achieving things if you aren't grateful for them? This little habit of thinking about the ways in which I'm fortunate is a big factor in why I'm always happy.
Photo is a cool Banyan tree in Hilo, Hawaii
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Thanksgiving is probably my favorite holiday. The other ones are weird religious inventions or consumerized hijackings of religious inventions. And sure, the origins of thanksgiving are a bit murky, but it's hard to argue with such a simple holiday: spend some time with your family and/or friends, and be thankful.
I especially like that it's about appreciating what we already have, taking a break from the distraction of every day life, and thinking about all of the good things that make it up.
Today, as I spend time with some of them, I've been thinking about how thankful I am for my family. I've always gotten along really well with my family, but since most of them were around by the time I was born, I'm sure I have a tendency to take them for granted. As a kid I always just assumed that everyone had a great family and that their family was behind them supporting them all the time. Then, as I grew up, I saw situations where that wasn't the case, and I realized how good I have it.
I have three fantastic siblings, any or all of whom I enjoy spending unlimited time with. We each live in different cities now, but when we're together it's like we're best friends. Besides a scuffle over a plastic ninja sword as a kid, I can't think of a single fight I've had with any of them.
O and B passed out after the trip . . . My week in Seattle was the most fun I've had in a while. I got to see so many amazing things . . . .scenic views of downtownlakes covered in a soft blanket of fogattractive people of all ethnicitiesa gloomy and sinister Amazon building on a hilltopmonstrous burritosa magical Steinway piano by a windowa guy named Lars and his lady friendsinging New Zealandersa big doughnut by a reservoir where a wedding proposal once took placeamusingly burnt bread at an Italian restaurantthe view of strangers through a big window of a French cafeBruce and his son Brandona sunset mirrored by waterEeyoreViviennethe site of a spectacular mountain through a tiny airplane windowAsians freezing in a churcha couch by a reflecting pool at Seattle Ubacon AND chocolate TOGETHER(!)the smile of a woman in a French cafe who gave me precious advice about lifea fairy on a ferrygorgeous, big blue eyes that will strike the hearts of many some daya giant troll nestled under a bridgea little family of three in a house of happy colorspeople at a bus stop perpetually waitinga surprised fluffy cat upon the unexpected arrival of a strangera mother and her daughter staring out of a window on a ferry to Bainbridge Islandbreathtaking art from some kickass Asian peoplethe most HYSTERICAL hula hoop dancing EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!standing on the street by a bus stop and catching a final glance through the window of a little girl laughing . . . . For this trip, I got to visit friends of mine who I've known over ten years now. I still remember when I first met them. Seeing the changes that have transpired in their lives was a bit of a thrill for me. They have a family now, and a life rich with joy, struggle, laughter, and love. In general, I tend to worry about many of my friends and always hope that they have at least some happiness in their lives. I headed home relieved that they are safe and cared for in each others arms. Unbeknown to them, I've been doing research for my next album that I hope to record early next year. The view of a family with all its quirks and tenderness gave me much to think about . . . During this trip, as I often do when I am away from home, I gave myself time to think about my life and the direction I am going. I made some big decisions for myself that I hope to follow through on over the next few years. Life tends to move one with or without one's active involvement. I plan on having my say in the matter quite assertively. Seattle is a different world far removed from my little corner in the south. Giant trolls live under sprawling bridges. Ghosts wander through town leaving a trail of fog in their wake. An army of mountains stand guard just over the horizon--majestic in their quiet, stoic vigilance. Towers scrape the clouds of an overcast sky. People from all over the world live here as exotic textures and flavors abound. This is a place where the ocean greets the land, and the salt of the sea travels no further. There is a richness here--fed by rain, cradled by water. I hold a deep fondness for this magical place. I returned to Nashville feeling refreshed and renewed for the year to come. I am so grateful for the time I had away. -gordon