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Exploiting Societal Weaknesses

In poker you often win not by playing your cards, but by playing your opponents cards. My good friend and sometimes poker mentor once told me that to become a winning poker player, you must learn to win the pots that no one has a legitimate claim to. If you have an excellent hand, you'll probably win. If he has an excellent hand, he'll probably win. But if neither of you has a particularly good hand, the pot is up for grabs. It's in situations like these that rather than playing your hand, you focus on your opponents weakness.

In real life, too, I find a lot of value in working from other people's weaknesses, especially societal weaknesses. As urbanization continues along with population growth, standing out from the crowd becomes more and more difficult. Even if you are exceptional, your impression can drown amongst the sea of other people everyone is meeting. The solution, or part of it anyway, is to identify what society at large is bad at, and excel at it. By doing so, you become even more distinct as the field increases.

Here are some examples of ways I try to distance myself from the crowd.

1. Always be on time. Being late has become the standard. I never expect anyone to show up to anything on time, and I'm usually not surprised. Most people won't be terribly late, but five or ten minutes of tardiness is the norm. For the past few months I've made a point of always being on time for everything. A week or two ago I was half an hour late making a phone call, and I still remember it today because it was such an egregious violation of this standard.

Maybe I'm the problem

On The Tender Beetle

I'm getting everyone I care about mad or frustrated. I admit I have an attitude problem and it doesn't help when I act defensive about it. I haven't spoken to my dad at all today, I've been locked in my room since we got home, we missed the annual father - daughter baseball games because of my attitude problem. Its starting to hit me now of what a bad person I am. I'm giving up on going to that show two weeks from now. Lately I don't have the will to do things I use to enjoy. Maybe it's because I have nothing to do right now and it's depressing me but what ever the reason is, I'm already starting to feel guilty about it. I just hate how I have to change for people, how I have to deal with people talking down to me, saying that the person I am isn't good enough and so on.

My whole life, I was living up to people's expectation, There were so many times I almost cracked and looked like the crazy one. I really don't know what else to do because everything I want to do is wrong. My whole life was planned out for me, even now as we speak. I can't do anything without hurting anyone I care about.

I can't keep my friends because I'm too much of a bad friend or too much of an introvert. I an't keep my relationship with my boyfriend healthy without hurting him and telling him he's just like everyone else. I can't keep a stable relationship with my parents because I can't out grow my phase of being a metalhead,

At this point, I think I should just give up completely and do what people want from me because that way I won't hurt anyone that I care about

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