You should spend your life doing something you're passionate about, right? Everyone agrees with this, but tons of people have trouble figuring out exactly what their passion is. It seems like the kind of thing that should be glaringly obvious, but for some reason it just isn't.
I think a big part of the problem is that we're looking in the wrong places.
Passions are very rarely big nouns like, cars, computers, or dogs. They're usually verbs, and they're usually specific.
Here's an example. One of my friends, Steve, is the owner of a very successful internet company. His company, and I'll admit I don't know all of the intracacies of it, is basically a middleman for internet advertising.
His passion isn't internet ads, though. No one's is, probably. Anyone who knows Steve would tell you that his passion is incremental improvement based on rigorous testing and measurement.
He loves it. He takes great pleasure in tweaking one variable at a time in any part of the business, measuring the results, and starting another test.
His internet advertising business is just a manifestation of that. It's an outlet for him to practice his passion.
Tonight at dinner my friend Vince asked what my passion was. I thought about it and told him that it was living as extraordinary a life as possible and helping other people do the same.
I love it.
And when you look at the things I've been really invested in, you'll see that element in all of them.
Is pickup extraordinary? Yep. Was I helping others do it? Yep, and I still do through my book. I think anyone who has read my book would agree that this enthusiasm is applied to it.
How about my blog? Of course. Half of it is my stories about unusual and worthwhile things I've done, and the other half is trying to convince you to try some of them.
Life Nomadic is an obvious incarnation.
Even gambling fits. It's certainly extraordinary, and when I first started I spent hours trying to convince my friends to get into it too. That's a bit of a stretch, but passions start as interests and get built up. Gambling was one of my first ventures.
The best way I can suggest to find a passion that you've built is to think about what really excites you. Forget about business, just think about what in life makes you live in the moment and ignore everything else. For me it's evangelizing living an awesome life.
I love telling people my stories and showing them how they too can live their lives as they want. I love going out and living my life with total disregard for convention.
It's critical to be doing something you're passionate about. I don't believe anyone will have runaway success without this. To be massively successful you need to put 110% into it, and few people can do that without passion. I know I can't.
Don't look for a business that you're passionate about. Find one of the thousands of businesses that you can apply your passion to, and develop it. Focus on it exclusively and push through the dip.
I want to know what I'm truely passionate about. I have been searching for a while... but can't find it. It sucks.
My passion is improv and making connections to people, places, and things. If I can figure out a way to combine everything that would be the perfect business for me. Cheers, Bill
I came up with a series of questions designed to help with finding your passion.
Your answers to the following questions will provide hints & indicators with where to start. Careful consideration, inner-reflection, group discussion, and coming up with your own questions is highly encouraged.
What would you do all day, every day if you had all of the time, freedom, love, sex, money, power, and confidence in the world?
What did your parents make you quit to focus on school?
What did your parents make you give up because "there is no money to be made or future to be had with that"?
What did your parents make you quit or give up because "that is too risky"?
What have your friends suggested you do/attempt, but you made excuses not to?What is something you've reacted with, "I could never do that" but have yet to actually attempt?
What did you dream about doing or becoming as a kid?What did you enjoy during childhood?
What did you enjoy about your favorite classes?
What have people complimented you on or thanked you for doing?
What are your weaknesses?
What are your strengths?
What is a medium you use to creatively express yourself?
What have you always wanted to do or experience?
What topics do you spend hours reading websites, books, or blogs on?
What activities cause you to get lost in the moment and lose track of time?
What do you enjoy doing when you are in solitude?
What do you currently wish of doing or becoming?
What is on your "bucket list"?
What do you tell people you'll do "one day"?
What do you judge people for doing?
What actions do people do that make you jealous?
What do you enjoy doing with friends?
What activities do you enjoy spectating?
What do you want to talk about or share with others (but might not have anyone to talk to or share with)?
What activities are your friends doing on Facebook that spark your interest?
What do you find yourself frequently posting on Facebook to share with others?
When you feel bored, what would you rather be doing (other than Facebooking)?
What activities put you in a child-like state of mind?
What do you enjoy doing as a form of self-therapy?
What activities cause you to experience much joy and peace?
What gives you a confidence/ego boost when you perform well at something?
What gives you feelings of inspiration?
For the entire set of questions (and more "Passion" content which is too long to fill here), check out: http://www.kevinvelasco.com/finding-your-passion-with-passion-probing/
I have a question for you Tynan and I would love it if you can answer it honestly. Here it is:
You say your passion is " living as extraordinary a life as possible and helping other people do the same."
Now, do you REALLY want others to live extraordinary lives? That would mean that you would no longer be living an extraordinary life [since there wouldn't be people living an ordinary life] and hence fail in fulfilling your passion to live an extraordinary life.
I had an AP art teacher flip out on my class a few years ago when most people didn't do their work. She told us, "If you don't draw or paint in a day and you don't feel like something is, 'wrong', don't get into this field, you have to need to do this. Do yourself a favor, leave now, you will get laughed at in art, school, pay a lot of money and feel terrible." Whenever I talk about passion with people, I explain that this has been my greatest barometer.
I used to be able to edit photos and get lost for hours at a time, then I lost the spark. That was one of the most difficult things for me to experience, how the heck do you lose a passion? I wound up getting into film, but I wasn't sure.
Nowadays, I want to help people communicate. After being a crisis counselor and a youth worker for a few years, I've realized people have a hard time listening. I don't really know if this is a passion, but I feel its a service that needs to take place, that it will benefit people long after they see me.
Either that or becoming an ESL teacher.
My passion is my creativity I felt it when I was in the womb thanks to gods plan for my life. If you find spirits in life no human on earth can stop you. The key to success is the ability of not being able to stop.................learning how not to stop...........will stop others from stoping you................think deep.
Hi I'm a 17 year old boy living in NZ, I want to be a game designer but apparently you need physics and maths for it. I love maths and ICT but I found so physics boring, so boring I have the urge to fell asleep for every physics class I have. Is there anyway to help motivate me?
Stumbled upon this article. It put a smile on my face. My passions range from crunching leaves and smelling wet oil paint to finding out what makes each person tick.
I love failure. When it occurs, I'm pretty indifferent to it, but as a concept I love it. Failure lets you know that you're doing something wrong. It shines a light on a personality trait that needs to be fixed,one that probably would go unchanged if it weren't for failure.
People who fail and get angry are missing the point. Failure is opportunity. It's like getting angry that your car tells you you're low on gas. The indicator light isn't the problem,the level of fuel is. Further, hiding the failure doesn't solve the underlying problem. Disconnecting the indicator light won't fill up your gas tank, but filling up your gas tank will turn off the light.
During my tenure as a pickup artist, I never took failure personally. It never mattered to me. Each time I failed, I felt as though the girl had revealed a secret to me. No attractive girl is chaste her whole life, no girl is a bitch to every guy. If she didn't want me to call her, that meant that there was something unattractive about me that I had to change. Compliments and success stroke my ego, but honest critical feedback leaves me thinking for months.
I have failed financially so far. It's not that I'm poor, or anywhere close to it. I'm sure my income, net worth, or lifestyle are impressive or even enviable to a lot of people. I'm so immeasurably grateful for everything I have that I feel a tinge of guilt on a daily basis for not spending the entire day thanking everyone who has made my life so great. However, despite whatever success I have, I am not where I want to be. I will be a billionaire, I will own my own submarine and airplane, and I will spend the majority of my life traveling and seeking adventure. I'm not nearly as close as I should be to these goals, and I'm not exactly on the express train there.
Miguel Hernandez of Grumo Media and I have swapped some really good communications recently. Super sharp guy, he sent this observation and question to me -
Here is a suggestion for a future post for you. Today I met with a friend who has been friends with the [recently very successful movie director] for many years. He noticed I got some attention from Ashton Kutcher and is convinced that my career is going to skyrocket too (he is dreaming of course) and I am going to become yet another of his friends that "makes it" and he doesn't.
He is a hilarious dude and very talented movie editor and wants to succeed and make a difference on this world, like all of us really. Today he took me out for lunch to pick my brain a little and get some advice. He had a great point which I totally agree with. Here it is:
So I keep saying that to succeed you have to welcome failure and keep trying continuously. But that really works if you actually have an idea of what your passions are. The problem, the big problem most of the world have is that most people don't have a clue of what is that passion for them.
I have had that problem myself, well, my problem is that I always had too many passions and wanted to do everything which is fun but also dilutes your chances to be very good at something specifically.