One of my biggest pleasures in life is creating opportunities for my friends and family. There are a lot of things I do all the time, but when I think of who I am by definition, I think of myself as someone who tries to create things for his friends.
This is what drives all of my shared real estate purchases. I obviously have a vested personal interest in buying all of these places, but I'm most delighted by being able to offer my friends the opportunity to own places all around the world for very little money and with almost no effort.
Those are big campaigns, but there are a lot of other things that you can do to provide great experiences for your friends. These things may not seem like a big deal, but being the one to organize events and activities in your friend group is extremely valuable. Here are a few ideas, ranging from easiest to hardest.
1. Organize a dinner for everyone a at a restaunt a few days in advance. This is so easy, but it doesn't happen that often. When was the last time someone in your group did it? Just pick a restaurant your group likes, pick a time a few days away, and invite everyone. I do this all the time and always appreciate it when other people do it.
2. Set up karaoke or an escape room. These are really fun collaborative activities that let people express different sides of themselves. They're also two activities that people somethings think they won't like, but will then change their minds on once they try it. My friends and I do both of these all the time and they're a blast. The hard part is coordinating a time, especially for escape rooms where you often have to book in advance, so be the one to take on that responsibility. Don't worry if your group doesn't do these things normally— it's even better if it's a new experience.
3. Host a game night. Board games are so much better now than they were back in our childhood days of Monopoly and Chutes 'n Ladders. Play Werewolf, Code Names, Settlers of Catan, or Bloodbound. Order some food or make some basic snacks like popcorn and chips and guac, and it will feel like a big event.
3. Plan a day trip for your friends, and make it a surprise as a bonus. Text everyone and say, "I'm planning a fun day trip for everyone. Meet at my house at 10am on Saturday and bring a bathing suit and $50". People love surprises and they love having a full day of activities without having to plan anything. Go for a hike, to a water park, to a museum, or to a cool restaurant or event in another city.
4. Plan a multi-day trip for your friends. Some of my friends once planned an awesome trip to Hawaii. They rented a big airbnb, told us how much we all owed, and we planned the rest on the fly. It didn't take much effort on their part, but it was a huge event for the group that we still talk about to this day. I've done this several times in Japan, each time taking only an hour or two to really plan out.
5. Purchase property with your friends. I've done this several times and have written about it in detail in my book, Forever Nomad. Having shared property with your closest friends is like investing in a continuous stream of quality time with your friends. The effort level (and financial investment) on this one is obviously the highest by a large margin, but it's eminently worth it.
Your friend group is probably one of the most important factors in the quality of your life, and will continue to be important as long as you live. By putting in small amounts of effort to provide fun experiences for your friends you will deepen bonds between each other and create great memories and shared experiences that you will treasure forever. The return on investment is enormous.
Photo is my friend (and island co-owner) Brian putting a solar panel on our roof.
some great tips here.
in my own experiience, we started wiith the weekly restaurant dinner, with a goal of doing a housing co-op. then we rented a 20 room house dirt cheap. then we triied to buy a church building, but they ended up selling to someone else. then we rented a room to a guy who turned out to be crazy and violent and we foun we didnt have the copng skills to handle it and iit all fell apart, but it was a great year. i think my point here is with your closest friends, you can buy, but wth less close friends, try renting for a year first.
my recent fun aventure is that i'm doing 5 minutes of standup a week at a local open mike. i am an extreme introvert, so i though ths woul be way outsie my comfort zone, but it's a blast.
tynan, dont know your schedule, but i plan to be on hawaii for a week one month from now. if you are there, i'd enjoy meeting, and maybe we can find a comedy club with an open mike night. more likely, you'll be elsewhere. so another approach is, woul you be willing to be a guest on a podcast. call in from anywhere.
if you say yes or maybe, i'll bring it up with the guy wth the podcast. he did a recent ep with a guy who climbed mt fuji barefoot 3 times, and it reminded me of your stories.
- arbitrary aardvark.
Glasses clinked and spoons rattled against porcelain as we sat in a backstreet cafe in Tokyo. Our table was three chairs one one side and a low couch on the other.
Across from me was Jimmy. We met a couple years ago because a mutual friend moved to Jimmy's town in New Zealand. He introduced us over email and we became fast friends. Right of him was John, who I met a few days ago through Jimmy and had already bonded with over standup sushi and plans to buy a cruise ship. To my right were Adrienne, a 21 year old who keeps a fascinating journal of plans. We met briefly at Karaoke six months ago, and then got to know each other on the cruise. And at the end of the table were Chris and his girlfriend Kaori. I met Chris by random chance, having shared an apartment with a mutual friend seven years ago. It just so happens he's also friends with Jimmy.
That's about half of my social circle in Japan, at least right now. Only Chris and Kaori actually live here.
It's strange, having this ephemeral group of friends. Most will be my friends forever probably, but maybe that's the only time we'll convene in that particular group. It's not like Friends on TV where it's the same gang every episode.
It was with more than enough skepticism, worry and fear, that I went on my first organized group trip. I’ve never hesitated to hire local guides, but I’ve always chosen to travel solo or with friends/family with a flexible itinerary and open mind. So why, might you ask, did I choose to go with a group of strangers to Patagonia? Hopefully, though the cathartic experience of writing this blog, I might just discover the answer myself.
Here’s some obvious reasons WHY:
- Though I had plenty of friends that wanted to go with me to share experiences and costs, none could make the commitment, and I couldn’t wait. So it became a solo or group decision.