Hey, look at that alliteration.
Writing this here in the community section because I think it's a bit too similar to my other pickup posts recently, and a lot of people don't care about pickup posts. Still, I wanted to write something about it, since you might be wondering what happened with pickup.
My original plan was to do pickup for one month, which I thought would be enough to restore me to my former glory. It wasn't, so I felt obligated to keep going. After six or seven weeks total (I forget exactly when I stopped), I realized that I wasn't close to getting back to where I wanted to be. Tyler from Real Social Dynamics estimated that I had another three months to go, which was my estimate, too.
Right now my #1 focus (and, really, my only focus) is working on SETT. I reluctantly distracted myself for pickup for one month (working extra hard for three months before to try to compensate), and kept going for the second month, but really can't do another three months. Given the choice between doing pickup and SETT half-ass or just doing SETT, I'm choosing SETT.
I don't want to give myself a free pass on this. I had a goal to get to a certain level in pickup and despite giving myself extra time, I failed to do so. I also know that pickup is uncomfortable and scary, and that those feelings probably have influenced my decision somewhat. If it was easy and fun, maybe I would have been more likely to stick it out for a while. Then again, I don't do anything fun right now (although I do find work enjoyable). This weekend I did literally nothing besides code, eat, and read. I only left my RV once since Friday to get a proper shower and food. This is a typical schedule for me.
The problem with quitting pickup now is that my dating life is still non-existent. Because of the past six weeks I'm fairly likely to attract a girl I spend time with, but I literally don't meet anyone anymore because I am in my RV working 100% of the time. I don't even go to Samovar to work because I'm not as productive there. So most likely I'll work during 100% of my time for the next 6-12 months and then maybe allocate a decent amount of time to pickup. I've dated a bunch of awesome girls before and been pretty good at pickup, but I've never built a successful tech company, so I don't mind focusing on something new before going back to something familiar.
On the plus side, I did learn a lot in the past six weeks. It was a valuable experience and pretty fun most of the time, too. What I still like most about pickup is how brutally hard it can be and how honest it makes you be with yourself.
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