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I'm curious to know more about the bet between Tynan and Sebastian. Tynan, do you have to email your post to Sebastian everyday but he posts his online? What are the conditions? Surely there's a blog post in it?
I'm full-timing soon, and am employed full-time in California. Other than claiming residency with family or friends, what is the best way to stay legally/locally domiciled? I have looked at PO box direct addressing and virtual mail services, but none seem to promise to work for tax, auto registration, insurance, and voting purposes. It shouldn't be so hard, but it seems The Man prefers we be tethered...
not too much time to put a long post now but I should update before the end of next month. however, here are some updates to my renovation...
Background - Been at the same job/company almost 10 years. The money is ok/decent, not great, I'm good at what I do and am the go to guy when things are messed up. I'm just really burned out, my own health has deteriorated and am constantly stressed out, back pain, can't seem recharge my batteries, projects are piled on, last real, full-week vacation will be 4 years ago this May. The only time I've taken off lately is when I'm too exhausted to come in to work, having back pain, or sick. Mainly, I want to take off to de-stress, work out more, eat properly and restore my energy levels and mental well being, and travel (The working out and eating well are 2 that I'm working on now). In regards to travel, I've only been out of the country to Europe once for like 8 days or so...As I'm approaching my mid 30's, I think that if I don't go now, I never will and I don't want that regret...I'm also contemplating a career change and the burnout is something that I don't think 2 weeks or so off of work will fix. Over the holidays, my dad was diagnosed with cancer and is going through intensive chemo right now, so I'm staying with my parents to help take some of the daily load off, my mom is an emotional wreck. I was thinking of quitting in a month or so when he's through that or at least when we know what direction the treatment is heading. That has kind of put things in perspective. Even if I'm good at it, I like what I'm doing, make decent money, it still may not be worth it if it is stressing me out to the point that it's affecting my health and well being.
I probably made a mistake of telling my parents I'm probably quitting my job to take a break and travel, maybe up to a year (I'm brutally honest...I shouldn't have mentioned it at all when my dad is going through this, but it's hard to hide the fact I'm really burned out when they see you daily)...to which my mother said I was crazy and went into a tirade on how I need to find another job right away while I have one and can't just quit, we might need the money, it's escapist behavior, etc. The money part was a full out lie as they are financially secure and have health insurance through her work. My parents have never left the country and rarely go anywhere. I told her she is missing the point, I don't want another job as I need to take some time off from work, another job will bury me.
Personal - In my mid 30's, single/not married, no kids, no college loans, no credit card debt, have a mortgage, but it is a duplex and already rented it out which covers the taxes and mortgage. I've squirreled away enough to where I could live for several years if need be, so financially, I have my shit together. I think my mom was flipping out due to the fact that I'm not married, no kids yet, now I'll be unemployed, and she's not a grandma into her 60's now, it's something I want eventually, but I'm not catering my life to anyone else's time schedule or demands in that department.
My main concerns are returning to the workforce and/or career after taking a long time off...and other concern is that I'll be having too much fun and won't break out of the full time travel mode cycle. Any thoughts or advice?
I went to post here a few weeks ago, but got sidetracked. I would like to get more flexible, eat healthier foods and wake up earlier. I decided to make some changes about two weeks ago (Boxing Day, I think).
For yoga and flexibility, I am doing sun salutations every morning on top of my weekly yoga class (already in place for almost two years). Right now, I do three but plan to bump up to four tomorrow. I have missed two days (non-consecutive) since starting.
For eating healthy, I am making myself and my kid eat three servings of fruit/veggies every day. I have done this every day since my decision except one. I plan to bump this up to 8 per day by my son's April birthday. As I am establishing the fruit/veggie thing, I will also start preparing healthy meals at least twice a week (without white flour/sugar/trans-fats, etc). My goal is to eventually get to a place where I feel good about all foods that I put into my body and better about what my son eats.
Last is sleeping. In bed by 10:30--up by 6:30. Right now, I am 12:30-8:30 (ish) weekends and 11:30-6:45 weekdays. This habit does not have to be absolute--I love a good party and will hopefully always socialize into the wee hours if others are game for it, but I do not need to stay up late when I am home...especially if I have to work.
There, my promises to myself are now made public.
After fifteen years of having the same cell phone contract, which left me grandfathered in at unlimited everything for $15/mo after taxes, I finally passed my plan on to my brother and switched to T-Mobile. Why? Because T-Mobile gives you free unlimited 2G internet everywhere in the world!
This is something I've been dying to have for a long time now. I have so many trips where I'm in a country for just one to three days, which isn't enough time to justify getting a SIM card. Almost all of Sprint's phones are either not worldphones or are internationally locked, meaning that you can't even go to another country and buy a SIM. Your options are to pay crazy roaming fees if their network is even available, or to not use your phone.
T-Mobile also has some other cool benefits-- they have Wifi calling (and texting) so you can call and text from anywhere once you're on Wifi, their prices are very good, and they're one of the last carriers to still offer unlimited 4G.
If you want to switch and want unlimited LTE (which is crazy fast-- 35Mb/20Mb in San Francisco), you should do it NOW. This plan gets more expensive on March 23. If you want less data, you should wait until after March 23, as every other plan gets a little bit more data for the same price.
If you know anyone on a T-Mobile family plan, you should piggy back onto their account. You can add a line with 1GB of monthly 4G for $10/mo, up to unlimited for $30/mo (which will soon be $40). That's what I did. To simplify things I just prepaid my entire year to their account so that it's not a hassle for them.
What happened to tynan I think I've gone back two years the latest post is Hua Shan?
Or is my computer / internet just broken?
Good ol' California is granting tax credits of 30% of the total cost of a solar installation system to residents:
If you made the jump this year and are living in CA, it might be worth investigating whether you could write some of your installation costs off on your taxes.
They claim it's for 'residential' installations so who knows if we can successfully make the point that our RVs are, officially, 'residential', but it could be a hefty savings, if so.
I am new to this group. I must say that I have owned VW Westfalias in some form or another since the early 80's. Lupita, my 95 Rialta QD, is simply a Westy on steroids in my mind. She's been to Mexico four times, and all over the Pacific Northwest and every back road of Arizona. I would like to install an LCD 19" TV behind the passenger front seat. Any suggestions as to how to mount it securely?
Aka Volvo Lady
I was just gonna shoot an email to Tynan recommending this but realized, what the hell, might as well put up a community post for others. A friend recommended Tiffany Shlain's work to me, including her film Connected and a little 8-minute piece on vimeo called "The Science of Character".
I only watched the trailer for the first one, so far, but watched the whole second one (since it's short.) A lot of it was content that I knew, but her production values and presentation are very good, and in particular one quote that jumped out at me and really resonated was:
"The way to strengthen that filter is as simple as taking a moment, focusing your attention, and asking yourself: Is what I'm about to do a reflection of who I am, and who I want to be?"
It's not like I haven't heard that sentiment expressed a thousand ways before, but for some reason that italicized sentence really moved me. Actually I was thinking about heading out to get an unhealthy but delicious brunch right as I was watching the video, and when I heard that it immediately broke me out of that and made me realize it was just me wanting a distraction and some sense pleasure. It was super effective!
I carry little quotes around with me, like on cards in my wallet or places I'll see them (my only tattoo is, in fact, a quote I carry around with me) and I think I'm going to make this my next one, and anytime I'm tempted to do something, try to pause, gather my attention and ask myself that. I bet it'll be pretty effective (at least for like a month before it starts to feel stale and loses its power, but hopefully by then I'll have found another motivating turning phrase...)