"I''ve given hints to hang out countless time, all have been rejected or deflected as I like to say."

Giving hints is not enough. Girls like confident guys. Ask her directly. Then you have your answer. 

"Not only that, my standards are high (physically) so hitting on girls out at parties has been intimidating."

That's an excuse. If you successful hit on a girl that isn't very beautiful you don't have to have a relationship with her. It's practice. Practice will help you to develop skills.

Otherwise how about taking up a challenge for the next month:

While walking along on campus you will say "Hi" to every person you pass. Just one word. Their response doesn't matter. The thing that matters is that you are opening up to strangers by saying "Hi".

Okay, I'm no further along the path of life than you are, but I travel more often and make more new friends/girlfriends. I also get laid on occasion (a new girl about once every 5 months).

And the goal I'm pursuing is much like your own. A roaring social life, a great romantic life, and an automated income.

The route I'm taking is built around focus. Instead of trying to get it all right now, I'm planning on getting it all by the end of 5 years (4 now, I've been in this for a year already).

So, the first step is a freedom business. Make $3500/month automated, so I can focus on other goals and have my money situation handled. Aka, I'm building runway, that will eventually build itself and need little maintenance.

That means that, even though I want more friends and more girls, I'm not focused on that right now.

I'm focused on one thing: building an automated income.

When I have that handled, I'll move my focus to more travel. Then, girls. 

And then...With my money, time, freedom, and romance handled; who knows what I'll pursue next?

So, my advice to you is this:

Focus on one thing right now. Just one. 

Set a clear, big goal, and get it handled in the next year or so.

Then move onto the next.

Focus on what? For you, I recommend focus on social skills. You're in university, and that is one of the best social environments in the world.

Then, I'd go for a set of freedom businesses. 

In five years, you'll be your ideal you. And yet, your ideal you will have grown to yet another level.

Good luck! (It comes with constant and fearless effort)

Definitely some good advice here; I'd also like to chime in with my 2 cents =)

If you have barriers to socializing with women, by default, you're shutting out approximately 50% of the world's population.

I think the key here is to drop any expectations of what you wish to happen, in any encounter. Don't become fixated on any one particular girl to satisfy your needs — you are capable of meeting all of your own needs. When girls realize that you're not that creepy guy who just wants to get into their pants, they will feel more comfortable opening up and sharing with you, whether that be friendship or sexually. We all have sexual needs, but they aren't dependent on any one person; those needs can be satisfied a multitude of ways.

Also, like you mentioned in your text message encounter with that one particular girl, you think you texted her too much and she "deflected". This is probably a very accurate assumption. I find that with girls, less is more — let them wonder, be curious...the more mysterious you are, the more they want to figure you out. If they can read you like a book and predict the outcome like a boilerplate hollywood flick, then there typically is no passion or excitement. You don't want to be the guy who chases the girls, you want the girls to chase you; that's what being confident and an "alpha male" is all about. It's not as easy to sum up as "Nice guys finish last", but there is definately a ring of truth to that; don't cater to their every whim and do what they want, but also don't be a complete jerk and asshole either. Just be confident in who you are, and exude that in your every day encounters (whether it be with a girl or a guy). 

But, realize that girls are human beings just like you are, they just perceive things in their own unique way. At first, it seems so complicated because of all these different techniques and pickup lines and female psychology, but really, it's simple — you're just connecting with another human being. Just like speaking with somebody who is not a native english speaker, you want to speak in terms that they understand; this is the key to effective communication (to put it in terms that the other will understand). 

You don't have any problems connecting with your guy friends, and it really doesn't need to be any different for girls. Just try making friends with girls, no sexual pressure there — and if you have female friends, they will often introduce you to their friends, or even try to play matchmaker. Some of the best contacts come through your network of people you already know :) You can also try to practice interacting with girls who aren't judged as very attractive; they probably won't have their shields up, and you will get some good practice! Just be honest, and don't mislead others while practicing, because while you can gain experience, I find it is always the best policy to treat others like you would like to be treated. Also, if you make good friends with a girl, ask her for advice and I would be willing to bet she would be glad to help (though, realize that the advice will be coming through a female perspective). 

If you'd like to understand more, you can study pickup, but realize that pickup techniques and philosophy just educate you primarily on your own psychology, and the psychology of women. Like Zen, once you "truly" understand pickup, you leave it behind; pickup is just another lens of understanding the world around us.

Try, try, and try again, if you fall then get up and try again — fail your way to success!

Best,

Jason

What makes you think that if you don't learn social skills now you'll magically learn them when you get out in the real world and start traveling? If you're a shy person at home, you're going to be shy person in bum-fuck Egypt also. Girls are not just going to throw themselves at you in foreign country cause you're an American (I assume or from whatever first world country) not quality ones anyways. Not everyone is going to be your best friend, but its cool to have social skills to at least make valuable acquaintances along the way. Don't be so quick to judge a woman either, give them a chance and talk to them. That stupid looking blond you think is beneath you might actually be a person of deep quality. Also, think, who the fuck are you to think you're too good? Think about what you bring to the table. Are you just a fat or scrawny kid who talks the talks, but doesn't walk the walk? Or do you actually have something to offer a girl? Ambitions, travel, enlightening conversation. How about instead of focusing on what other lack, you focus on what you lack, get to work and fix it. 

I'm actually married,  only 23 years old, though.  I can't offer much advice on finding women, but I do know this;  I didn't look for my wife nor she look for me; we actually shared a mutual friend who introduced us.  I had no idea who she was as I had never met her in my life, but we lived within 2 miles of each other.  We have been together since I was 19, she was 17.  Yeah, we got married kind of quick at 2.5 years in, but it seems to be working thus far. 

Random question:  Am I using my semicolons correctly above?