Nice post - I think you're onto something here. Courage and desire do seem to be strongly intertwined with each other as it is hard (if not impossible) to sprint into the darkness for a cause you have no desire for. Remembering what you want is invoking the power of desire itself - which in turn results in courage if the desire is really pure. I remember writing about courage myself on my blog years ago and this is what I came up with:
When you really desire something to the point in which your heart aches for it then you’ve unlocked the only true source of pure unadulterated courage. Think back to the times you wanted something really badly. Think about the obstacles you might have faced. Doesn’t it seem like when you’re really in love with something that obstacles almost seem to not exist at all? It’s like my mind can’t even perceive them as problems. When you feel the energy of love and passion fill your heart don’t you feel like an imperial age musketeer who’s all of a sudden fearless and ready to charge into the line of roaring gunfire? When something really means something to you a surge of strength unfathomable seems to take over and overcome the most heinous odds. Feeling the fear and saddling up anyway didn’t get me to where I am now in life – no – only true courage that came from the heart did. Everything in life I’ve ever accomplished has only made itself so because deep inside I really desired that outcome in my heart.
I always find it telling when different people seem to come to similar conclusions regarding a topic. If all of this is true then is a lack of courage simply a lack of desire? If so then when we tell people to work on their courage should they be working on finding the real reasons they desire things instead? Through self introspection I've found a lot of what I thought I wanted I did not actually want - thus never really took action.
Man, you made it so much more poetic than I did xD. Beautiful.
I think the problem with people not having courage comes from two separate sources.
1) They don't know what they really desire. In this case, a week or two of intense goal review and setting would be healthy (and tons of fun)
2) They lose sight of their long term desire in short term pains.
Getting shut down by a girl or a potential client hurts. When you remember that this will teach you and make you better at getting girls/clients, then having the courage to keep it up is no issue. But it's hard to remember that when you've just taken a hit.
Ever since I can remember, I have been a huge fan of Boy Meets World. With no concept of TV guide or schedules, it was a gift from the heavens above when I would turn on the TV and see the familiar cast. For roughly as long as I was a fan of the show, I had a crush on Topanga - known as Danielle Fishel in real life.
I'm hesitant to post detailed "reports" on meeting women here. Maybe because it's too personal, maybe because it's so easy to misinterpet as mechanical, but for whatever reason I don't love the idea. However, this is a funny story that probably won't offend anyone (except one guy who I don't mind offending.)
The 2004 Pickup Artist Convention, which I had organized, was held in Los Angeles, CA. Normally I'm rather lazy about going out and meeting people. I find it very frustrating to find women I'm genuinely interested in, and the allure of talking to women for practice is much less than it was when I first got into the Pickup Artist thing.
I finished reading Steven Pressfield’s The War Of Art yesterday. It was easily the most valuable book I’ve read this year. If producing any form of creative work is important to you I’d highly recommend you get a hold of a copy. In the meantime, however, here are some key takeaways.
“Are you paralyzed with fear? That’s a good sign. Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember one rule of thumb: the more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.”
Pretty self-explanatory. Whatever scares you the most is probably the most important thing for you to face.
“Resistance is fear. But Resistance is too cunning to show itself naked in this form. Why? Because if Resistance lets us see clearly that our own fear is preventing us from doing our work we may feel shame at this. And shame may drive us to act in the face of fear.”