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Teaching can only help learning if the learner agrees with what the teacher shares.
You know the saying "You can lead a horse to water, but can't make it drink". Imagine now that a horse also drank oil and wine. If the horse is thirsty for wine, it needs someone who can lead it to wine. Then it will drink.
That's what we as humans are. We have an array of different possible wants out of life (like different drinks we may want). Some will not give us happiness, so we should not do (drink) them.
And when one of us finds a great way (a watering hole) to get the drink they want, they sometimes help others who want the same drink by helping them find it (and find more together).
So, what I'm saying here is this:
When Learning: Do not do something you don't want to do (do not drink a liquid that will not nourish you). Only do what you want to do, and learn from others who are doing it.
When Teaching: If someone does not want to do what you want to do, don't try to force them to do it, thinking they will enjoy it too. Don't try to force other horses to drink from the pond you found. Find the people who are happy to learn from you, and focus on teaching them, leave the rest to find what they enjoy.
Recently a comment was posted where someone asked why I don't drink. I do seem to mention it in a number of posts, mostly those where I'm complaining how hard it is to find a girl who also doesn't drink, but I suppose I've never explained why. I also don't do drugs, smoke, or take medicine.
I've never had a drink in my life. I went to a private school in Andover, Massachusetts for middle school and I don't think anyone there drank. Maybe they did and I was blissfully ignorant. I remember one kid got caught for smoking and it was a huge controversy.
After middle school my family moved to Austin, Texas and I went to a public high school. My first day there I got lost and happened to have wandered behind the building. to my surprise there was a huge mass of kids smoking cigarettes and pot. One such kid, a Junior, picked me up and put me in a trash can.
By Leo Babauta
One of the more difficult, and therefore more interesting, problems in unschooling is the problem of motivation.
In other words, unschooling is just like regular life (in fact, shh don't tell, but "life" and "unschooling" are the same thing!).
The problem that many unschooling families face is: if you don't force the kid to learn certain things in certain ways, that's all well and good, but what if the kid doesn't feel like doing anything? Can they just lay around and watch TV all day? What if the kid wants to do some things but isn't motivated to work hard on them?
So how to solve this problem?