Background - Been at the same job/company almost 10 years. The money is ok/decent, not great, I'm good at what I do and am the go to guy when things are messed up. I'm just really burned out, my own health has deteriorated and am constantly stressed out, back pain, can't seem recharge my batteries, projects are piled on, last real, full-week vacation will be 4 years ago this May. The only time I've taken off lately is when I'm too exhausted to come in to work, having back pain, or sick. Mainly, I want to take off to de-stress, work out more, eat properly and restore my energy levels and mental well being, and travel (The working out and eating well are 2 that I'm working on now). In regards to travel, I've only been out of the country to Europe once for like 8 days or so...As I'm approaching my mid 30's, I think that if I don't go now, I never will and I don't want that regret...I'm also contemplating a career change and the burnout is something that I don't think 2 weeks or so off of work will fix. Over the holidays, my dad was diagnosed with cancer and is going through intensive chemo right now, so I'm staying with my parents to help take some of the daily load off, my mom is an emotional wreck. I was thinking of quitting in a month or so when he's through that or at least when we know what direction the treatment is heading. That has kind of put things in perspective. Even if I'm good at it, I like what I'm doing, make decent money, it still may not be worth it if it is stressing me out to the point that it's affecting my health and well being.
I probably made a mistake of telling my parents I'm probably quitting my job to take a break and travel, maybe up to a year (I'm brutally honest...I shouldn't have mentioned it at all when my dad is going through this, but it's hard to hide the fact I'm really burned out when they see you daily)...to which my mother said I was crazy and went into a tirade on how I need to find another job right away while I have one and can't just quit, we might need the money, it's escapist behavior, etc. The money part was a full out lie as they are financially secure and have health insurance through her work. My parents have never left the country and rarely go anywhere. I told her she is missing the point, I don't want another job as I need to take some time off from work, another job will bury me.
Personal - In my mid 30's, single/not married, no kids, no college loans, no credit card debt, have a mortgage, but it is a duplex and already rented it out which covers the taxes and mortgage. I've squirreled away enough to where I could live for several years if need be, so financially, I have my shit together. I think my mom was flipping out due to the fact that I'm not married, no kids yet, now I'll be unemployed, and she's not a grandma into her 60's now, it's something I want eventually, but I'm not catering my life to anyone else's time schedule or demands in that department.
My main concerns are returning to the workforce and/or career after taking a long time off...and other concern is that I'll be having too much fun and won't break out of the full time travel mode cycle. Any thoughts or advice?
Several years ago I was sitting with a bunch of friends at a restaurant. Dinner was winding down and we were all stuffed.
My friend next to me asked me how I made so much money. I always had the money for everything, she said, and she was always struggling.
The bill came and everyone went down the list adding up their stuff. Before tax and tip mine was around $7. Hers was $30, more than four times what mine was.
Hi everyone and welcome to my new blog! As this is one of my first posts here I'd like to introduce myself and explain why I've called this blog No Status Quo.
My name is Emil and I'm a 21-year old student from Latvia. I've spent the last three years of my life studying in the United States and the Netherlands. I'm studying economics, psychology and mathematics. A strange combination, I know. I'm currently in my last semester, and I'm really looking forward to graduation.
Why? Well, I have some great plans after finishing college. But first let me start by explaining what I don't want to be doing after I graduate.
I no longer want to study at a university because all the world's knowledge is freely available on the Internet. If the world's greatest universities offer their lectures for free, why would I waste my time and money studying at an average institution? Sure, I might not get any credentials for what I learn online, but I want to live a life in which I'm rewarded for knowledge and hard work, not formal credentials.