Due to overwhelming reader demand, I have begun to offer personal coaching on a limited basis. Those whom I coach now have chosen to work with me because I have a long track record of thinking outside the box, developing effective and maintainable habits, and breaking down complex sets of life goals into actionable steps.
My strongest specialties are designing systems of habits to support long term goals as well as navigating complex social situations. That said, this is essentially a "brain for hire" program, and I'm willing to work on anything for which I can be helpful. Currently I'm working with clients on projects as diverse as mastering storytelling to financial optimization.
Here's a testimonial given by the person with whom I've been working the longest:
Because of my coaching sessions with Tynan, 2016 was the first year in about 3 years when I felt like things in key areas in my life were improving for the better.
Despite starting a profitable business in 2013, I wasn’t working up to my potential. Days would go by when I wouldn’t do any work at all, simply because I didn’t feel “motivated” to work. My health level and weight were stagnant, despite feeling like I was eating better and working out more. I remained about 80 pounds overweight. Not surprisingly, I had no dating life to speak of. I also hadn’t developed any close friendships, even though I had been living in the same city for 3 years.
Desperate to break these patterns and finally shake the malaise I had felt for my late 20s, I asked Tynan if we could start coaching calls together. I had read his blog for a year, and his posts about friendship, work and relationships were what I aspired to build in my own life. Rather than struggle with thought patterns and actions that weren’t getting me where I wanted to go, I was ready to leverage the expertise of someone who already had a strong handle on the areas I wanted to improve.
It was single handedly the best thing to happen last year.
Tynan helped identify my roadblocks surrounding work, and then put systems in place in track my progress. Because of his help with challenging limiting beliefs and diligent tracking, I’ve seen a 2x increase in my company’s monthly revenue.
I’m also down nearly 30 pounds since our calls started. Again, diligent tracking and not being able to b.s. my way out of working out or eating well were the keys. Not only was Tynan able to provide advice and access to resources that could help me work out more efficiently, knowing I had to report back to with my progress from the month also kept me accountable.
I also went on more dates in 2016 than I had in all previous years combined. Left to my own devices, I would have put dating off indefinitely out of fear of rejection, despite wanting to be in a relationship. Tynan was able to help me set realistic goals on how many dates I should try to go on each month. He also provided valuable feedback to make future dates better.
Could I have gotten myself on the same trajectory by myself? Perhaps. The past few years of trying hadn’t gotten me close, though. If you feel like you’re stuck in an area of your life, and you’d like to save yourself the pain of regret of having another year go by without getting closer to your goals, I’d highly recommend contacting Tynan for coaching.
Sessions are once per month and are an hour long. A typical format is reviewing the past month, going deep into specific situations to extract lessons and actionable steps, and planning out the next month. When helpful, I also provide a tracking spreadsheet for accountability which I review.
I only schedule calls during times when I know I will be at my best and can give you my complete attention and focus. You can expect radically honest feedback from me as well as total respect for your privacy. My personal goal is to become the best coach in the world, as measured by the quality of life improvement of my clients.
After the first session I ask that you commit to working with me for at least six months. There is no enforcement, but this mutual understanding allows us to work on permanent long term change rather than fleeting short term wins.
My current rate is $600 per session. I will continue to increase this rate as people sign up for the waiting list to limit the amount of time I spend coaching. I believe that my effectiveness comes from dedicating most of my life to self-experimentation and learning, so it's important to reserve most of my time for that.
By signing up for the waiting list you lock in the current rate for life, as long as you book your first session when your turn comes up and continue to work with me monthly.
The waiting list is currently 1-2 months long and will get much longer as I reach capacity and stop adding new people.
To be added to the waiting list, please email me at my name at my name dot com. If your goals aren't similar to those I mentioned in this post, please briefly explain them to me so that I can let you know whether or not it's a good fit.
A little over a year ago a reader bought enough copies of Superhuman Social Skills to get a free one-hour coaching call. The call went well and I could tell that she was serious about making change. I hadn't considered doing coaching on an ongoing basis, but she asked and offered me enough to make it worth my while, so I agreed.
Since then it's been a really great arrangement. She's made tremendous progress so far, I feel invested in her life and enjoy seeing the results of a little bit advice mixed with a lot of diligence and commitment to her goals on her part.
So I'm going to take on two more clients. A good candidate would be someone who has read a lot of my blog and resonates with my way of thinking and my approach to life and is willing to put in the work. I think I have the greatest ability to help with habits, social skills, and living an authentic and satisfying life. If you feel stuck or plateaued or constrained by options, this may be for you.
Here's what my one current client has to say:
One of the general life goals I've got is to be more grateful. I knew I wanted to do this for a while, but had an opportunity a couple weeks ago. On 17 August I had my phone and some dead time, and I remembered I wanted to start tracking gratitude better. So I started making a list of things I'm grateful for.
I was just cleaning my iPhone notes, and found the list:
Gratittude - grateful for good friends. Chris having me as a guest. Chase and I working on creativity. Talking biz with Anthony. Coffee. Miu Ne. Beach. Swimming. Working muscles. Good juice. Bread, rice, eating healthy. Smart people. Hacker News. Self discipline. Technology. Jailbreaking my iPhone. Massage. Learning how civilization emerges by walking through the slums. Walking by the canal. The motorbike ride back that passed by the train, watching the train pass. Walking in the park with the cool animal garden sculptures. Learning how to negotiate here. Commander Marshall's circus. Working on critical thinking, meditations, SDS. Pho. Rice. Fish. The really good seafood. Playing Risk with Chase and Anthony. Talking philosophy with David. Paul Graham wrote back to me after I said thanks to him and that I think he goes down as greatest philosopher of this era. Yifei is awesome to do business with. Swapping ideas with Bren. Working for CDefine, first client. Learning. Reading ultimate sales machine. Live music at habana. Heading out to a nightclub first time in a long while. Not sleeping too much. Chris's cleaning lady washing my clothing. I feel strong. Habits improving. people reading my blog. First guestpost. The meteor shower at 3AM
It was fun doing that - was sitting and waiting to eat Korean food, had nothing to read, and didn't have my headphones to listen to audio. So I started clicking around and listing down some things that went well the week before. It's amazing how much there is - I'd like to do this more often going forwards. It's really nice.