After work I went to get some dinner with Doug and Steve. Doug is one of the engineers at Smiley Media, who you will be hearing about soon due to some incredible plans we have set in motion. Steve, as you may remember owns Smiley Media. Jonah joined us later for drinks and fish tacos (for those of us who don't drink) at Saba, a generically trendy bar downtown. The draw was that its windows look down onto Cedar Street, where the Spasmodics were playing. The Spasmodics are a band who probably deserve some description, but I don't care enough to go into it.
When we were at Saba, I saw some incredibly hot girls. I know that may not seem noteworthy to a lot of readers, but I don't see a ton of hot girls on a regular basis for some reason. That should change.
Anyway, we all decided to go back to my place to watch Lost. Steve, Doug, and Jonah took Jonah's car, and I took mine.
As I stopped at a red light, I noticed that a girl in a pickup truck next to me was staring at me. I was on the phone, but she motioned to roll down the window. I didn't really know what to make of it. It seemed like she was going to compliment me on my hat, but was it really necessary to do that from car to car?
I put my friend on hold and rolled down my window.
"Hey! I read your blog!" she said.
Whoa! Someone actually recognized me from my blog. How cool is that?! It's not like I even have a lot of pictures up. I guess it also happened when I went to school, but those were people who had stumbled across the UT Tunnel Story.
The light turned green and she added, "I love your hat!" as I drove off. Hey, my prediction was right.
I really see no alternative to this. In the pickup community I am a celebrity of sorts. Enough that people know who I am, know my story, and are often times very excited to meet me. I've even signed a few books.
Several times I've been stopped and asked for autographs because my style of dress is a bit outlandish (thanks, Mystery!).
Rarely a night would go by going out where some group of girls wouldn't ask to have their picture taken with me.
My little sister tells all of her friends about me and to them I am a celebrity of sorts.
I'm not trying to convince you I'm a celebrity - because I'm clearly far from it, but I have had experiences which give me a feel for being what a celebrity would be like, and I love it.
I was hanging out with one of my very successful friends a couple weeks ago. He told me that I was the first person he'd known who wanted to be famous just for the sake of fame. Not for the money, but just for the experience of being famous. He has no desire to be famous. He asked why I wanted to be famous.
I want to be famous because it's an option. I can't imagine dying without doing everything there is to do (besides drugs and drinking), and being famous is one of those things. What a change in perspective it would be. To go from wanting attention to having too much of it.
People say that fame corrupts and is a big hassle. I don't think it would ever bother me. It opens up doors that may otherwise remain closed. When people in the pickup scene approach me, I don't blow them off. It's not that I really want to answer the same questions I've asked a million times. It's that I can put myself in their shoes. I know that the enjoyment they get from hearing me answer the questions is far greater than inconvenience to me, so I answer them. Sometimes I enjoy the conversations too, of course - but a lot of pick up artists have the knee jerk reaction of blowing off the people who want to talk to them.
Also, I think I'm a great influence. I would love to have a soapbox to stand on and show kids that you can be yourself and be liked by everyone and that you can stay away from drugs and drinking and have fun.
Someday I'll get there. I've got a few ideas.
You work for RSD? What does that have to do with me being the greatest Travel show host in the land?
AHHH...Spasmatics they used to play at the Dragon Fly on Santa Monica Blvd. for a while drawing a pretty big celebrity crowd. I remember back in austin it used to be all about the Scabs...
If I didn't work for RSD, I think you might make a good host for one of my new MTV travel shows
Sorry if you've already explained and i missed it, but what's the deal with not drinking? Are you 100% teetotal? Why? Have you always been?
I'm in the UK and whilst I can appreciate the idea of not needing alcohol as a social prop, nightlife revolves around it!
Eminem: Dont you wanna grow up to be just LIKE ME???!?!?! :) Yeah, you beeing famous rapper would be a great thing for the game to be introduced to the generall public and maybe even be incorporated into the mainstream...imagine how that would affect the number of rapes and murders a? Game rules!
I love failure. When it occurs, I'm pretty indifferent to it, but as a concept I love it. Failure lets you know that you're doing something wrong. It shines a light on a personality trait that needs to be fixed,one that probably would go unchanged if it weren't for failure.
People who fail and get angry are missing the point. Failure is opportunity. It's like getting angry that your car tells you you're low on gas. The indicator light isn't the problem,the level of fuel is. Further, hiding the failure doesn't solve the underlying problem. Disconnecting the indicator light won't fill up your gas tank, but filling up your gas tank will turn off the light.
During my tenure as a pickup artist, I never took failure personally. It never mattered to me. Each time I failed, I felt as though the girl had revealed a secret to me. No attractive girl is chaste her whole life, no girl is a bitch to every guy. If she didn't want me to call her, that meant that there was something unattractive about me that I had to change. Compliments and success stroke my ego, but honest critical feedback leaves me thinking for months.
I have failed financially so far. It's not that I'm poor, or anywhere close to it. I'm sure my income, net worth, or lifestyle are impressive or even enviable to a lot of people. I'm so immeasurably grateful for everything I have that I feel a tinge of guilt on a daily basis for not spending the entire day thanking everyone who has made my life so great. However, despite whatever success I have, I am not where I want to be. I will be a billionaire, I will own my own submarine and airplane, and I will spend the majority of my life traveling and seeking adventure. I'm not nearly as close as I should be to these goals, and I'm not exactly on the express train there.
What started out as my exploration of an age-old question: whether total nerds have a chance at snagging highly desired women ripples into a topic that permeates into a thorough exploration of everything regarding the enigma we call 'love' and how it may not be as magical as we first deem it to be.
Reupdate: 3/14/13 Didn't really mean to update on Valentine's Day but there we go. I rescind my 51/49 soul/body split I mentioned in the 3/13 update after responding to Zach's post on Sebastian Marshall's blog http://sebastianmarshall.com/dont-underestimate-biochemistry. I now believe it is a dynamic split that changes based on situation.
Update: 3/13/13 In yet another update of this post's evolution the original question has been staked in the heart by Tynan's latest post Not that kind of person. I am now more convinced than ever that there are no 'pre-sets' in life and the only barriers we put up are the ones of our own making. Not everyone starts on even-footing and some have advantages over others but in the long run for most things we are self-defined. For the longest time I've tackled a deeper philosophical question - is the body a victim of biological processes or are biological processes controlled by the body? (ie can we use willpower alone to induce biological change) Are human personalities just a sum of biochemical reactions or is the human persona a product of the 'soul'? I now believe that we have a lot more power than we give ourselves credit for and even though our bodies and higher aspects (mind/soul) may often conflict with one another ultimately the higher aspects are in control.
Admittedly hormones and such play a big role in our day to day feel/function and have enough weight to throw us off course . Starting out I think we may be a 51/49 split of mind over matter but with self discipline and proper care of the human vessel in my experience that ratio only goes up to pass more control to the higher self.
Update: 9/6/12 Figure I'd clean this up and add in a shortcut to help anyone trapped in the loop of pining for women - most of what is considered "love" doesn't exist just sex. Read the end of this post for the explanation why. Otherwise original post below...