A couple years ago I became obsessed with the idea of buying an island. I mean, I'd always been obsessed with it, but my obsession shifted from the idea of buying the island into the action of buying it. I wasn't fantasizing about the things I'd build on the island-- I was looking up property tax rates.
When I'd pull myself away from the tax tables and go back to thinking about what it would actually be like to have an island, all of my imagined scenarios involved my friends. I wanted it to be like a summer camp that we built and enjoyed together.
So I found an island off the coast of Halifax, put in an offer, and emailed twenty of my friends, asking if they wanted to buy this island with me. Nine said yes, so we bought it.
The whole process felt familiar, like deja vu. Then it hit me-- I'd done this exact same thing before in college when I organized five friends and we bought a huge school bus together. We gutted the bus, rebuilt the interior, and traveled all around the US and even to Canada with it.
This has sort of become my thing. I organize big, physical, real-life communities for me and my friends. Even traveling is like this. I'm always setting up cruises or Japan train trips for my friends.
Socially I want two things: I want to deepen existing important relationships, and I want to make new ones in an efficient way.
The primary method we have for deepening relationships is sharing experiences. The variety of these experiences and the level of involvement seems to matter. Watching a lot of movies with someone isn't going to make you great friends, but maybe cutting trails through a thick forest on your island will.
Doing projects together allows you to see how the other person thinks and works, and teaches you how to work together. You see how the person celebrates success, and you see how they cope with the inevitable setbacks, like the time our boat died in the middle of the harbor during a particularly cold and foggy hurricane.
That's why these things I create always involve work that needs to be done. We spent every day for three months building that school bus. Every trip to the island is at least as much labor as it is talking around a campfire. Even on cruises we took turns getting advice from each other during lunches, and we made trophies to give out to passengers.
These projects also serve as flags to attract other people with similar interests. Some of my best friends have gone on my Japan trips, but so have people I've barely known. Because the type of trip I lead appeals to them, I can be optimistic about wanting to get to know that person. A couple of the island owners were new friends, who have now become better friends.
Think about what you can build for your friends, not only because it's a way to make your friends' lives better, but because it also makes your life better.
Photo is sunset from the island.
Heading from Tokyo to the island tomorrow morning. Had an amazing time here, and excited to get to work on the island. I'll be on a Dreamliner for the first time, too!
I haven't been writing travel stories recently, but since I've been through so many different cities in the past month, I figure I should share a few little notes on each, just in case you're heading through one of them soon.
I just can't get into Beijing. It's not a bad city, but it's sprawling, smoggy, and a little bit faceless. This time I stayed in the hutongs (alleys), which was pretty interesting. Forbidden city is really neat, but the park right behind it is at least as interesting. Climb to the top for a great view. The only reasonably healthy restaurant we found was Saveurs de Coree, a Korean restaurant. Everything was pretty pricey, except for the bibimbap set meal that comes with little Korean appetizers, fried tofu with onions, bibimbap, and cinnamon tea. Not perfectly healthy, but the best I came across.
I love San Francisco so much that every time I return here from a trip, I resolve to stay for a while and enjoy the city. That never happens. Next week I'm going to Tahoe, then Vegas the following weekend, and then to Austin for SXSW the week after that. Cabo or Hawaii follows in early March, but in late April comes the most exciting upcoming trip: a sixteen day cruise to Rome.
Cruises are full of old people. As best I can tell, that's because young people haven't figured out how awesome and cheap they can be. In fact, I can easily say that of all the travel I've done, cruises probably represent the best bang for the buck.
Before I tell you how to get them cheap, let me tell you why cruises, especially long duration one-way cruises are amazing.
One of my favorite aspects of cruises is that they can take you to places you may not otherwise visit. For example, the cruise my friends and I are taking stops in the Azores, Seville (Spain), Valencia (Spain), Barcelona, Monte Carlo, and Rome. Without cruising, I probably would never make it to the Azores, and those southern Spanish cities are unlikely as well. They're just too remote and too expensive to come up at the top of my list when choosing a trip.