Hypothetical situation: imagine that you have a twin with the same goals as you. If you want to become the CEO of your company, so does he; if you want to date that cute girl who you always see at the grocery store, so does he; if you want to be the leading blogger on dog sweaters, so does he. You both have the same resources, too. He has a twin bank account, knows all the same people, and lives right next door to you.
Let's assume, too, that only one person can reach your goal. So if your goal is to run a marathon, and he does it first, you don't get to run a marathon. This makes him an evil twin.
The one difference between you and your evil twin are your methods. You have a plan, and he has a different one.
Let me ask you this, then: which of his many possible plans scares you the most? If you're both trying to be the CEO of your company, are you scared of the evil twin who is working 9-5, doing a solid job, or are you scared of the twin who is playing golf with his boss (and maybe even his boss' boss) every week? If you're going after that girl, are you afraid of the twin who is going to ask her out today, or the one who is writing in his journal, pining after her? If you want to be the dog sweater blogger, are you nervous about the twin who started his blog five minutes ago and is out at the dog park with his camera right now, or the one who is spending a week trying to pick the perfect domain name?
The thing is, this situation isn't so hypothetical, and it's also not as rosy as it sounds. You have a lot of evil twins who not only want your goal, but they also wanted it before you did, and have more resources to get it.
So what do you do? You become the evil twin. You do what your competition is most scared of. What that usually boils down to is: do it NOW, be hardcore, and never forget that you're not the only one in the race. That's advice you've heard before, but imagining the non-imaginary twins out there helps motivate me. Maybe it will do the same for you.
(By the way, being an evil twin doesn't mean to abandon your standards. Your goal isn't to trick the girl into showing up at the same restaurant as you at the same time... it's to make her actually like you for who you are. In other words, standards are built into the goal; there's no point in reaching a goal if you didn't do it by your own personal standards.)
Great blog Tynan,
Your right. The guy that everyone is threatened by/jealous of is the one who takes action... speaks to that hot girl, books that trip or starts that business.
Just does it!
Nice post Tynan. I think Maria makes a good point. If we are going to use the visualisation as purely for motivation, then make it someone you really don't want to achieve the goal before you, so you feel emotional pain that propels you to take action.
I think that even more effective would be to imagine someone that you DON'T like (e.g. has treated you very badly in the past), as someone that rushes to achieve the same thing as you! That may push you to perform even more efficiently and effectively! Haha
I understand the point you are trying to make, but not everything in life is a zero sum game.
The atavistic territorial brain circuits respond better to zero-sum than to positive-sum thinking. Hence, if we can trick ourselves into thinking we are in a struggle against a rival, we can unlock powerful states. As long as it's done tactically, and not as overall life strategy, I'm all for it.
See this: http://thefuturebuzz.com/2010/04/12/why-you-need-enemies/
OK Tynan, YOU are my evil twin. I had the idea of promoting nomadics towards the younger generation years ago, but I didn't have the guts to do it. That, and there was NO internet.
Time slipped by, opportunities have been missed, and here comes this young punk Tynan making a name for himself in his twenties, stealing all the nomadic thunder. Now I find out only one of us can make it to the goal...sheesh.
I can beat you at the marathon easily though...
I once visited some friends in San Francisco who had copied our idea of renting an extravagant house and splitting the cost between the pickup artists who lived there. We called ours Project Hollywood, they called theirs Project San Francisco.
We sat around their living room, bonding over stories of the perks and follies of communal living. Chores were a sore subject. Our house was always messy-- so messy that maids usually quit after cleaning up after us once. Their house was clean. How did they do it?
"Our goal is to keep our place at a nine out of ten in cleanliness."
All religions basically teach followers to do good deeds. Why should a person only follow Islam? Can he not follow any of the religions?
1. Major difference between Islam and most other religions
All religions basically exhort humankind to be righteous and eschew evil. But Islam goes beyond that. It guides us towards practical ways of achieving righteousness and eliminating evil from our individual and collective lives. Islam takes into account human nature and the complexities of human society. Islam is guidance from the Creator Himself. Therefore, Islam is also called the Deen-ul- Fitrah (the natural religion of Man).