I'm trying to write something personal improvement related every Monday and a story every Wednesday. I hope these are interesting to people, because I generally think that most personal improvement articles are relatively useless.
Every couple weeks I scan through lifehacker.com, and inevitably think "Man... this is a lot of useless junk."
Now... I've definitely found some good stuff there, and have had some of my articles featured there, so it's not ALL bad. I just feel like most personal improvement stuff is geared more towards FEELING like something has been accomplished rather than actually taking action.
My points are these:
1. If you think these posts are fluffy and useless, please send me an e-mail. It's hard for me to judge.
2. Lifehacker probably won't feature any of my articles anymore if they read this.
When I created The Skinny Snob, a diet book, I didn't have excellence in mind. I wanted to create a product as soon as possible and begin selling it.
I wrote the book in a day or two, slapped up the web site, and began selling. The book had fantastic information, but it was incomplete. I didn't spend the time to research every last food. I just wrote about foods I knew about and left it to the reader to use the book as a general map.
People followed the diet, got healthy, and lost weight. It was a good book, but it wasn't excellent. Why not?
Later I wrote Make Her Chase You. I was really happy with the result. I spent more time writing it and more time editing it. I had more pickup knowledge than nutrition knowledge, so it was more complete.
People read it, loved it, and got girlfriends. Despite offering a 7 day free trial and 100 day refund policy, I get almost no refunds.
Is it excellent? Not quite.
Virgin Airlines is excellent. Comparing them to their competitors is like comparing apples to oranges.
Jay-Z is excellent. Every one of his songs is a masterpiece. Most other rappers put out one good song and fill the rest of the CD with junk. Kanye, Eminem, and Dr. Dre are excellent as well.
Xin's Amps are excellent. Comparable headphone amplifiers cost four times as much and are four times the size.
Mercedes used to be excellent.
Calvin and Hobbes was excellent.
Lenovo laptops are, for the most part, excellent. No serious business uses other brands.
Daily Juice, a smoothie place and juice bar in Austin Texas is excellent.
Michael Jordan was excellent.
Conversion Doubler is on its way to excellence, because I now understand what it means and what it takes.
There is ONE thing that these rappers, a juice bar, an airline, and a computer company have in common which makes them excellent. It has everything to do with the PROCESS.
None of the creators of these products (or the people themselves in the rappers' case) compare themselves to the competition. They set, and meet, their OWN standards.
Here's how normal people produce:
1. Determine minimum level of quality to be competitive
2. Work until that level of quality is achieved
Here's how excellent people produce
1. Determine the highest possible level of performance their product could yield
2. Work relentlessly to get it there, passing competitors without even noticing
3. Sell and become uber-successful
Do you think it ever crossed Richard Branson's mind that American Airlines doesn't have TVs at every seat? Do you think he cares? Does Jay-Z consider how popular a one hit wonder like Soulja Boy is?
No. In their minds their competition is totally irrelevant. They make up their own standards and accept nothing less. Their competitors then try to COPY them, which NEVER works for one simple reason:
The reason that these excellence producers reached excellence was because they held themselves to their OWN standards. Their competitors make the same mistake they always make - holding themselves to someone else's standards.
This NEVER works.
What's interesting is that there are only a few players in any field that are excellent. There are then hundreds or thousands of wannabes who produce "competitive" products and fight tooth and nail over them.
They become a COMMODITY and have to fight over price or minor differences, while the people who are excellent have no problem capitalizing on their product.
Daily Juice is a tiny little juice bar that makes truly excellent smoothies. They have every ingredient you could possibly think of to put in a smoothie. None of their competitors have even 20% of the ingredients they have. Even the apple juice they put in your smoothie is made fresh in front of you. Want a smoothie with fresh coconut milk, camu camu, acai, caco nibs, and maca powder? No problem.
I used to drink a $11 smoothie every single day. It's expensive, but it's hard to put a price on excellence.
I think there are two phases to creating a product or a service.
1. Following the leaders. In pretty much any industry there are accepted best practices that are usually pretty good. Daily Juice bought Blendtec Blenders, fresh fruit, and offers 12oz, 16oz, 20oz, and 24oz smoothies. Jay-Z listened to the popular rappers of his time and molded his style after theirs. When I got into pickup I learned Mystery's method, I learned from Tyler, and I learned from Style.
2. Innovating. I'm not talking about "ooh, let's add CHERRIES to the smoothies", but rather taking the knowledge and experience gained in step one and doing something radically different based on it.
Most people never get to step two. They set their sights on their competitors, get to that level, and don't even THINK of taking it to the next level. They think of small incremental improvements and gimmicks to stay half a step ahead of the non-excellent competition, but that's it.
They mistakenly hold the belief that "everything worth doing has already been done."
Of course, no great people have ever come from this mentality. In order for a field to advance, there must be SOME people pushing the envelope by innovating and delivering excellence.
On the other hand, SOME people get caught up in their egos and try to skip step number one entirely.
"I want to be different. I want to be a pioneer!"
They go off in a random direction but get caught in the mindfield of mistakes that other people have already solved.
Internet marketing comes to mind here. There is an established "best" way to make a sales page. It has an annoying heading, a thin LONG column of text, and a huge "BUY NOW" button at the bottom.
Everyone says they hate these pages, but they work. I've seen people say,
"I don't like those pages. I'm going to make mine THIS way."
They're never successful. Hundreds of people have spent a lot of money to figure out the best way to make a sales page.
However, the people making the REAL money in online marketing aren't the ones who are blindly following the formula handed down by the greats of the business. They're the ones who take that foundation of knowledge and try new things on top of it (The Rich Jerk, Neil Strauss' group, etc.)
I used to believe that following the leader and innovating were two separate approaches, but now I believe that they're only effective when both are executed in that order.
Conversion Doubler will be an excellent product. I have a lot of the basic features that competitors have, but I'm also doing many things that NO ONE has ever done before. Not little side features either, but main integral methods of using the program that are measurably more effective.
I didn't know what I was doing at the time, but I never really considered how the other guys did it. I knew that it was a program I wanted for my own personal use, so I built it exactly as I would want it to be - NOT how the best alternative is.
One thing I noticed is that when your goal is excellence, it's actually easier to work in some ways.
I'm excited when I work on Conversion Doubler because I know that I'm creating something new and powerful. Maybe even important. This excitement keeps me motivated and invested in my work.
When I first wrote Conversion Doubler, my code wasn't excellent. I didn't have the proficiency to write excellent code.
I don't really have any standard to hold my current code up to, but I do know that I try to make it as good as I possibly can, and when I have to go back to it it's really easy to work with. Doing things right makes it easier to build upon them later.
As for Make Her Chase You, I'm currently working on a second edition. I've asked my customers what they would like to read more about, and I'm listening to every single comment. I'm also going over the book personally, reformatting it, and adding in sections that I think need to be addressed.
Everyone who bought the first one will receive the new excellent version for free.
This theory of excellence also applies to real life. Do the things that you KNOW are best practices for life (eating healthy, working out, being social, working hard, being happy, saving money) and then experiment and do the unexpected to build on top of that (life nomadic, living in an RV, going polyphasic, or whatever you're interested in).
Don't keep up with the Joneses. Live the life that YOU find ideal. What makes YOU happy? What are YOUR standards?
Ok, I feel like this is a bit rambly. It's six in the morning and I've been working since 2pm (there's that persistence for you). Goodnight!
Great post, sometimes I believe most of us have these thoughts in our heads but the mere action of putting in words gives us a complete awareness of something we might not be paying much attention to. That said, quick question Tynan are you doing the same with the posts of Best of Tynan.net, I mean reformatting them as you learn more?
Umm, tynan, you are pretty sweet. I like the way you think.:)
Thanks for your thoughts. They are valuable.Everyone should read your posts.
this is something good that i want my students to ready. i will give them your website. i have a question: i have great ideas in mind but i don't know how to execute it can you help me?
Excellent post tynan. These are the secrets that most people dont know or know but dont really apply and so they dont reach excellence. Now i am realizing that i was also follwing other peoples standards in a number of matters in my life even though i could have gone ahead with innovation. But this is what it is as you said in order to reach excellence one will have to come out of the competetion game and just go fo the perfection.
I like this post. Just like your other posts it kind of shows what kind of cool life you have. Still I must say that it's not always that easy to start the life you want to have. You're probably thinking I'm right and that obstacles are natural but can you tell me something more about the obstacles you had in lets say becoming a pick-up artist or travelling the world? Cause I kind of have the idea that you grew up in a lucky social and financial environment. I don't know if it's true maybe you can tell me something more about it.
Secondly I would like to respond on M's comment above this one. I disagree by saying that America is excellent. Health insurance sucks balls and poverty still exists while your government is spending big piles of money on space science and wars. I don't want to sound chauvinistic because I come from a small country in Europe named Belgium that has like nothing to be proud of. We are good in nothing. But please be careful with confirming the stereotype of the patriotic American that has no self-criticism.
Perfect! I cannot for the life of me figure out why most people don't get it! who has come to make BILLIONS of dollars and stay at the top consistently?
to name a few;
1. Google (when was the last time you used Ask? of course why WOULD you...it doesnt work as well. Ask doesnt have MAPS, and EMAIL, and a global mapping program, and news, and a free CAD design program that works BETTER than others that cost hundreds of dollars, and how many countless other projects that started as employees of google's SIDE projects and became INNOVATIVE and SURPASSING QUALITY features?
2. Apple (can any other mp3 player possibly compete?)
3. Japanese car brands (Subaru, Toyota) (Ford INVENTED the car AND the assembly line....and it is consistently outdone by people who came AFTER but have higher quality)
4. Mcdonalds (yes food is "bad quality"...but they are not in the food business. they are in the real estate business primarily, they also made their food as addicting as it could possibly be, NOT tasty, or different...its common as hell, but the quality of their scientists, real estate people and marketing wins out. There is a Mcdonalds on Wall street, Near Madison Square garden, in every wall mart, people go there because its fast, accessible and addicting....these qualities are HIGH.)
5. Warren Buffet, look at how he invests vs. how the idiots in the mutual fund market invest. His job is research. He doesnt just look up the stock quote of a stock before he buys it. He gets to know the industry, the company, the competitors and the people running his target companies better than the champions of those industries THEMSELVES know those things, He PERSONALLY gets to know ALL of the big players in the companies he researches, he only buys quality. And once he has bought he NEVER sells.
6. america, we were the first nation on the planet to even TRY to come up with a QUALITY system of government that highlighted excellence of life and quality of life for its subjects (seriously, i bet you could count on one hand the number of monarchs that gave two shits about their people in europe before us). and look at us now! In two hundred years more has changed for the positive because of our original innovation in government than in the last 2000 years before that. (arguably though as far as quality and equality is concerned we have been surpassed in many ways now though by other countries)
another thing you didnt mention though that most people dont get besides the fact that quality and good service beat out greed and selfishness in the long run any day. Thats Humility. So many people are ready to believe not only that they know everything, but that even if they dont they are not willing to LEARN from those that came before. I know sooo many people that reject the idea of getting into pick up, for example, because they say there are so many lame ideas that are obviously stupid in it (and lets be honest, there kinda are. NLP?...come ON! could you be more nerdy?) But when computers started they were the size of rooms and used punch cards! tell me THATS not lame...and try going one day without using a computer now, similarly, 100 years ago people LEECHED people with sicknesses trying to get "bad blood" out, basically just killing them faster. People had to humble themselves and learn the existing ideas in order to figure out what was wrong with them and change things for the better, discarding old useless things for better, and that is true of every single frontier humanity has ever embarked on. It doesnt matter if you realize that excellence is better if you are not willing to cow your pride and look for opportunities for it wherever you can. there are a lot more factors into achieving personal success too but i dont want my reply to become longer than tynans post!!
This post is excellent.
Sometimes I forget to do things in an excellent way. This is a great reminder.
I would love to invent or discover the next best way of selling things on the internet, without a format salesletter.
On the second day that I was visiting her in Toronto, Annie brought back a pile of books from the library. On the top was a tiny book with a cover so simple that it looked like it might be a children's book about potty training.
"A little book that teaches you when to quit (and when to stick)"
It seemed like a fluffy bit of entertainment. Something like "The Tipping Point" which is fun to read but not exactly a life changer. I was wrong, though. Dead wrong.
So no posts for a week and now you’re getting TWO in ONE day!!!!!!! J I know, you’re really excited, I can just feeeeeel it through the World Wide Webs ha ha ha :)
So I said that I would post individual posts about my meal preparations, so here, we, GO!!!
So like I said in a previous post I am single so I’m only cooking for myself most of the time. After a long day of work, that is a HUGE challenge ‘cause who wants to get home and then cook a meal for only one person? No one, that’s who. So when I first moved into my place I found I was making terrible decisions in regards to meals. I’d buy breakfast (usually grilled cheese) and lunch (also usually grilled cheese) at work (they aren’t very good at much in the cafeteria at my work, not even grilled cheese if I’m completely honest) and then on the way home I would pick something up. Even when trying to make healthier decisions, salads, wraps, pitas, burritos and being intentional about selections you’re racking up calories because take out is supposed to be delish, that’s what keeps you coming back for more, so they throw in things that aren’t the healthiest things to make stuff taste better than what you would make at home. So I decided I needed to get it under control and started brain storming on how I would be sure that I eat breakfast, lunch and dinner at least 5 days a week from things I have cooked while being intentional about preparing healthy meals and then the other two days, purchasing meals with friends, going to my parents, out to a friends place, etc. That way I’m leaving room for my life to happen and I don’t feel so restricted. So I decided I would have to do all the cooking on one day for the whole week (Sunday, sometimes spilling over to Monday if it’s a busy weekend). I thought by the end of the week the meals would become boring, but since I’m cooking things I like, how I like to eat them so far it’s been really great.
So my process goes a little something like this:
While I’m eating the same meals throughout the week usually I will get cravings (fajitas, shepherds pie, pasta etc.) so as the week progresses I find ways to make things in a healthy way, and sneaking in veggies (because I find it difficult to eat as many veggies as I should sometimes. Once I have an idea of what I want I look through the flyers for my neighbourhood grocery stores. I actually have an app, it’s called reebee and it’s fantastic, it pulls all the online flyers for the stores in your area and you can look at it on your smart phone, BRILLIANT!!!!!!! However, if I haven’t had a craving yet I take a look-see at what is on sale and I go from there, I meal plan.