February and March I'm going to spend half in San Francisco and half in Vegas. So I'm buying a bunch of cheap tickets to ping-pong back and forth between the two cities. As I booked these flights I thought about how it became "a thing". Two months, two cities, back and forth.
Those two months are going to be about productivity, getting my Vegas house up to snuff, and spending time with friends.
The only reason it is those things is because I decided it would be, though. No concrete reason.
I do this all the time, I've realized. Now my traveling is always with friends. Traveling is about spending quality time with friends. Doesn't have to be that way, but I made up that rule so that's how it is now.
Even things like wearing one shirt. It feels so normal to me to never change shirts, and that's just how my life is.
All of these things are just things I've made up. I think about where I want to go or what I want to accomplish, package it up in my mind, and decide that's how things are now.
There's a danger to this, too, in that it constrains flexibility. What if there's a good reason for me to have a second shirt? Would I really consider it?
But mostly it's a good way to simplify. You make up campaigns and rules and guidelines and then you just follow them instead of making a million little decisions. February and March will be easy to schedule because I know what they're about. I don't ever look at clothes because I already have my one outfit. I don't book flights unless friends are going with me.
What can you make up to make your life a little simpler?
Photo is Shibuya at night.
Enjoying my last couple days in Tokyo, but also eager to get back to the grind in Las Vegas. Now that I've got all the little stuff out of the way I'm really motivated to get cranking on Cruise Sheet!
You want simple, get familiar with the 4 questions of Byron Katie in Loving What Is. You can do this!
Any plans to create a repositioning cruise group? I'm often available to take advantage of the great deals, but traveling solo is all the more difficult on ships since you're paying for the cabin all by yourself.
Once Cruise Sheet gets bigger I'd like to build something to match people up to share cabins on cruises. Right now I just don't book enough cabins that anyone would be likely to find a match. Love the idea, though.
Right now I'm trying to innovate as much as possible, but a lot of my best ideas can only be done once I hit a critical mass. That's one of my main motivations for growing Cruise Sheet.
Got it. Let me know if I can be of any service. The repositioning cruises are the best deal I've seen for intercontinental travel, and are far more comfortable and relaxing than flying if you have the time to spare. I have a flexible job and am self-employed, so I've always had trouble finding cabin mates and like-minded people for the more interesting/exotic itineraries.
Thanks for the offer! In my experience you have to just hard sell your friends on any cruise you can get them on, and then they'll all fall in love with it and you'll have a pool of people to invite to future cruises. I'm doing a 21 day cruise and it was pretty tough to get someone to go with me.
Do end up mostly speaking in japanese when you're in Japan?
Well, there goes another year. Every time a new year rolls around, my initial impression of the past year is that it was pretty uneventful compared to previous years. Then I go through my blog archives and think about what has happened, and I realize that it has been, again, a pretty monumental year.
First some highlights:
As expected, dating was a big theme this year. I started out with a new relationship and ended the year with a failed attempt at another. I definitely had a fantasy that I would fall in love with the first person I met and settle down with her, but that's not how it happened. Still, it feels good to be dating again and I do feel like I'm moving towards finding someone to settle down with.
Very good question from a reader. I wrote up a pretty thorough reply, and now I'm recalling a number of times i've been asked this. So, here we go -
You are travelling a lot, so I've been wondering if you feel lonely and if that's the case, how you deal with it. I don't mean to sound too personal, just for the record, so if you do not wish to answer, go ahead (just let me know if that's the case, or point me to some reading, maybe?). I have found that when travelling for extended periods of time in places one does not know people, or when moving, changing location, that a certain lack of close contact with people can occur. This can lead to demotivation (concerning activity in general, work...), paralyzation, distraction causing lack of devotion to work and the like. Well, you are often writing about many friends, and I suppose you mean over the internet? Is that enough, or a temporary substitute? How do you counteract low-states induced by such cirumstances? (If they occur, I don't know if you have the problem, it just seemed a possibility).
Thanks a lot,
Good observation. Yes, you're 100% right - lack of contact with people is a big problem with traveling.