Joe is turning sixteen. All he wants in life is to have a car. He'd give anything for it. Sarah, who has a car, has never had a boyfriend. She's dying to have a boyfriend. Tracy has a boyfriend, and is about to have his baby. The kid was a mistake and she would do anything to turn back time and not conceive. Dale, who has no kids, just lost his job and desperately wants to make money. George, a billionaire, would give up his fortune to be young again, like Joe.
Right now there is someone who is going crazy wishing they could have something you have. Maybe it's your full head of hair, maybe it's your sneakers, or maybe it's your knowledge of cartography.
In fact, at this very moment every single thing about you is probably being coveted by someone else. How can you possibly be upset about anything when you realize that your entire life is being wished for in little pieces by millions of people all around the world?
Appreciating things is a lot easier when you don't have them anymore. I'm going on a cruise next week. I don't even think of the meals, the destinations, the pools, or anything else that the other passengers are looking forward to.
I'm looking forward to the tap water.
At the moment I'm in the Dominican Republic now, where the tap water isn't okay to drink. I can boil water, which makes it taste weird, or get water bottles. The grocery store isn't all that close, and I'm only so strong, so I can only carry so much water at a time. The result is that I don't drink quite enough. The thought of having a tap that has unlimited free water seems amazing.
I envy you because you probably have all the free clean water you want. I bet, like me two weeks ago, you never even considered how great it is to have drinkable tap water.
Think about the last time you had some sort of injury. You sprain your ankle, and only then do you realize how fantastic it is to have working, injury free, ankles.
There are an infinite amount of great things in your life. The trick is to appreciate them now while you still have them .
I actually had a similar experience with drinking fountains. I'm used to a desert climate, and when I went to college I was amazed that there were drinking fountains just sitting around everywhere. I think on my first day I stopped to take a drink from each one. ;D
Reminds me of the book "Stumbling on Happiness" by Daniel Gilbert. zeFrank did a vlog on the book a few years ago, which is how I found it.
You are so right... people always want what we can't/don't have... so we never feel happy..
If we just simple appreciate what we have in hands, we feel happy easier..For example, I love my morning coffee... not that I like drinking coffee but I like that peaceful time while I am drinking and some cool breeze..
Yep... I watched the Blueprint and loved it. I'll keep that in mind for future blog posts. Thanks for the suggestion!
Tynan, since you're good friends with Tyler D. I'm sure you've stumbled upon 'The Blueprint'. In it, he talks about feeling good at the core. How to shift your thinking and concentration inwards so that you're no longer thinking about what your needs and desires are, but just letting everything be and appreciating the moment. Even if the moment isn't all that great, just the fact that we have such a wonderful world around us and that you'll most likely get over what ever it is that is a hardship currently. I'm not sure if you've heard or read the Blueprint, but if you could expound on the idea of feeling good and being confident no matter the situation. Core confidence over situational. And un-conditional happiness. If you're having trouble thinking of what to write, I always enjoy the philosophical lessons people get out of everyday events. =)
Anthony interesting fact about boiled water I didn't know that.
I did a project for about a month during the weekdays where I listed 10 things I was thankful for and I was not allowed to repeat any ideas. It was an awesome experiment that increased my feeling of abundance.
I was in a car accident today. The other driver and I are fine, but both cars were totaled. It never really hit me until I went to my grandpa's house this evening and saw his two motorcycles... one is his, and one will be mine whenever we get around to fixing it up. As I looked at it, I thought about how I could have just as easily died today. Then, I thought about how I can't live my life in fear thinking about how I could have died each day.
Your last paragraph of this post said it all. Thanks, Ty.
Just as there are a million ways to drive from Los Angeles to New York, there are a million ways to get from where you are now in life to where you want to be. But, like the road trip, some ways are better than others. As I've tackled different problems in my life and watched others do the same, I've stumbled upon a sequence for progress through life that seems optimal to me.
Following is the sequence, with notes and thoughts on each step.
18 years of age since last June, to European standards I'm a ........man! I remember at a play rehersal a friend of mine who's 16.5 years of age, said with an envious tone, 'Your so lucky man, you can drive, drink, have sex, anything'. That 'anything' ringed in my head constantly throughout the rehersal, perhaps it explained why was I told by the director to get the f++k off the stage, which to my fright lurched me out of my dream stance. To the typical person, one would smile tinkle his fingers and do an 'menacing' sort of laugh as he plans for world domination [ok maybe a Mr. Burns type character woukld do that].
Not me though, to be honest I was terrified. Now was the time to start planning my life, no longer were the care-free days of messing about nor the exciting [even deluded] visions of our future lives as adults ....Well I'm one now and I look with shattered, heart-broken disappointment in the mirror as I appear to me the same person as I was at 15. At the age I envisioned I would a goatee beard, bulging biceps, pearl-white teeth, drivers license, straight A grades, had at least one girlfriend, to act, sing and write very well. But no as I see it i'm wasn't the multi- talented hunk about to embark to the realm of teenage stardom. The only thing racing through my mind was......have I wasted my teenage years day-dreaming about the 'perfect life' and the 'perfect' man to suddenly arrive on my doorsteps from the gates of heaven. That I was 'special', the 'chosen one', the.... nooooooooo !!!!
Well I guess i don't have everything for me as I thought I had. it's so easy sitting in a classroom thinking of all these amazing your going to do, neglecting your studies- which are pretty much your only way to a cog in this giant machine called Earth. School, classrooms, teachers, hallways, those were my only world for almost 13 years, so how was I supopose the 'real' world 'outside' the bubble, and without that world how was I supposed to know my own capilities? If all I've really done was sit in class, staring blankly at a chapter about ...the formation of brown earth soils [for example] doing my homework and just being a 'kid'.
Okay that last paragraph was a tiny bit off track, but don't we all do that at times. it shows the unpredictibility of our minds. So if I was able to produce that without knowing before hand, who knows what i could produce if I got overcome the doubts, the fears, the worries, the anxieties [those f++king voices that haunt us all] of trying new things.
To the point of this post, i'm at a point in my life where I need to start making the 'right' decisions to my future path. I've been doing so much research on college courses and anything, but the bottom line is that I don't what to end up as the typical, everyday-joe at the office from 9-5. I promised myself at 14 that become a part of the 'masses;, but now I realize why most of us do. Should take the risky path of the performing arts [which I don't know if I have a true 'passion' for it] or just pick a course that 'interests' me and see where I lead to?