Joe is turning sixteen. All he wants in life is to have a car. He'd give anything for it. Sarah, who has a car, has never had a boyfriend. She's dying to have a boyfriend. Tracy has a boyfriend, and is about to have his baby. The kid was a mistake and she would do anything to turn back time and not conceive. Dale, who has no kids, just lost his job and desperately wants to make money. George, a billionaire, would give up his fortune to be young again, like Joe.
Right now there is someone who is going crazy wishing they could have something you have. Maybe it's your full head of hair, maybe it's your sneakers, or maybe it's your knowledge of cartography.
In fact, at this very moment every single thing about you is probably being coveted by someone else. How can you possibly be upset about anything when you realize that your entire life is being wished for in little pieces by millions of people all around the world?
Appreciating things is a lot easier when you don't have them anymore. I'm going on a cruise next week. I don't even think of the meals, the destinations, the pools, or anything else that the other passengers are looking forward to.
I'm looking forward to the tap water.
At the moment I'm in the Dominican Republic now, where the tap water isn't okay to drink. I can boil water, which makes it taste weird, or get water bottles. The grocery store isn't all that close, and I'm only so strong, so I can only carry so much water at a time. The result is that I don't drink quite enough. The thought of having a tap that has unlimited free water seems amazing.
I envy you because you probably have all the free clean water you want. I bet, like me two weeks ago, you never even considered how great it is to have drinkable tap water.
Think about the last time you had some sort of injury. You sprain your ankle, and only then do you realize how fantastic it is to have working, injury free, ankles.
There are an infinite amount of great things in your life. The trick is to appreciate them now while you still have them .
I actually had a similar experience with drinking fountains. I'm used to a desert climate, and when I went to college I was amazed that there were drinking fountains just sitting around everywhere. I think on my first day I stopped to take a drink from each one. ;D
Reminds me of the book "Stumbling on Happiness" by Daniel Gilbert. zeFrank did a vlog on the book a few years ago, which is how I found it.
You are so right... people always want what we can't/don't have... so we never feel happy..
If we just simple appreciate what we have in hands, we feel happy easier..For example, I love my morning coffee... not that I like drinking coffee but I like that peaceful time while I am drinking and some cool breeze..
Yep... I watched the Blueprint and loved it. I'll keep that in mind for future blog posts. Thanks for the suggestion!
Tynan, since you're good friends with Tyler D. I'm sure you've stumbled upon 'The Blueprint'. In it, he talks about feeling good at the core. How to shift your thinking and concentration inwards so that you're no longer thinking about what your needs and desires are, but just letting everything be and appreciating the moment. Even if the moment isn't all that great, just the fact that we have such a wonderful world around us and that you'll most likely get over what ever it is that is a hardship currently. I'm not sure if you've heard or read the Blueprint, but if you could expound on the idea of feeling good and being confident no matter the situation. Core confidence over situational. And un-conditional happiness. If you're having trouble thinking of what to write, I always enjoy the philosophical lessons people get out of everyday events. =)
Anthony interesting fact about boiled water I didn't know that.
I did a project for about a month during the weekdays where I listed 10 things I was thankful for and I was not allowed to repeat any ideas. It was an awesome experiment that increased my feeling of abundance.
I was in a car accident today. The other driver and I are fine, but both cars were totaled. It never really hit me until I went to my grandpa's house this evening and saw his two motorcycles... one is his, and one will be mine whenever we get around to fixing it up. As I looked at it, I thought about how I could have just as easily died today. Then, I thought about how I can't live my life in fear thinking about how I could have died each day.
Your last paragraph of this post said it all. Thanks, Ty.
Just as there are a million ways to drive from Los Angeles to New York, there are a million ways to get from where you are now in life to where you want to be. But, like the road trip, some ways are better than others. As I've tackled different problems in my life and watched others do the same, I've stumbled upon a sequence for progress through life that seems optimal to me.
Following is the sequence, with notes and thoughts on each step.
Ah, you there, my Type-A friend. I'm glad you came today. Come in. What would you like? We've got coffees, teas, or clear still water perhaps? No juices at the moment, I'm afraid, I'm not having carbohydrates and it'd be fiddling with the devil to buy juice and then attempt not to drink it. The coffee is good, though, yes?
One moment. I'd like to light the fireplace. Maybe it's technically Spring, but this "Spring" in West Germany is chilly and cold and damp and grey, right down into the bones. But pardon me, I'm near veering into complaint, which is the exact opposite of the place I want to go. I'd much rather pull up by the warm fire's glow with non-carbohydrate beverage-of-choice and muse a little about philosophy and psychology with you -- and maybe it'll even be productive for us?
Ah, the warmth is nice.