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Fluidity of Identity

When I lost my sequined hat, which I wore nearly every day for three years, I felt out of place. I was the guy who wore the sequined hat, and now part of my identity was most likely in the hands of an unscrupulous backpacker in Panama. But really, I had been getting sick of the hat. It wasn't overly functional, had shed enough sequins that it was starting to look ratty, and was a vestige of my clubbing days. All that didn't change that it had become part of my identity, though. The same could be said about my recent decision to stop being a vegan. It was a comfortable identity for me. Some people saw me as a positive example of veganism. Deciding to eat meat would be an admission that I had been wrong and had given suboptimal advice to my readers. That's a bitter pill to swallow, and I could feel my subconscious fighting to maintain its identity; the battle for consistency over optimization.

Fortunately I've been able to couple my identity to a few key values, rather than staunch positions on issues. I value doing the best thing for myself and others, I value finding the truth over being the one who had it to begin with, I value health, I value independence and freedom, and I value productivity. My means of expressing and embracing these values are different now than they were a few years ago, and I have every reason to expect that they'll continue to morph as I progress through my life.

Staying exactly the same is the opposite of growth. If you want to develop yourself, you must be willing to have a fluid identity, deriving your value and satisfaction from what you're currently doing and planning on doing, rather than from what you've done. It's not always easy, which just might be an indicator that it's the right thing to do.

My 2013 Goals

On The Blog of Damon

In 2013 I have some ambitious goals. I wanted to write them out and share them with everyone so you can help encourage me. Publicly displaying my goals, while nerve wracking, also serves a method to keep me accountable. Don’t let me slip.

1) Record an album of 10 songs, orginals and covers

I've been playing guitar since my Sophomore year of college. Armed with GarageBand, my acoustic guitar, and a microphone this year I want to record an album of songs. Mostly covers however I do have a few originals I borrowed the chords and melody from other songs and added my own Spanish lyrics.

2) Fluency in Spanish

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