My biggest criticism with personal development, self improvement, or whatever you want to call it, is that a lot of it is theoretical or has little effect on your life NOW. Of course, most people become interested in personal development because of problems they're facing immediately, which creates a perfect setup for disappointment.
Thinking back on the different areas in which I've directed my efforts, here is a short list of some of the most effective ones which got results quickly (in no particular order):
1. Buy and read the book Fantastic Voyage : Live Long Enough to Live Forever. It's a fascinating read and will give you a deep and valuable understanding of your body, nutrition, and food. When I read it I did so because I was bored, even though I had no particular interest in health or diet. Reading it instantly changed the way I see a lot of things.
2. Open up a new bank account and religiously deposit 10-15% of your after tax income into it every month. This is money that you will NEVER SPEND for your entire life. As it grows you earn interest, and spend that (or add it to this same account). Once you have a significant amount of money, you can then invest it in something reliable like an index fund. You are allowed to use it as a down payment for a house.
3. Go through your house with a trash bag and throw away everything you don't need. You will immediately feel happier, less stressed, and more motivated to work on other projects. (be sure to look in cabinets, the fridge, and your desk - you will probably need more than one bag)
4. Get in the habit of taking a walk every day. Taking walks is surprisingly therapeutic (I do it every time I have a big decision to make, or feel stressed) and is also really good for your cardiovascular system. If you can do it during the day, that's even better. A moderate amount of sun is the best way to get Vitamin D and a healthy looking tan to make the ladies (and boys) swoon.
5. Starting at the top of the list, make a decision on one person in your phone every day. They either get a phone call or deleted. You might feel weird calling people you haven't talked to in a while, but think of how you would feel if they called just to see how you were doing. You'd probably feel really good that you were being thought about. During this process you'll also find people you'll never talk to again. Deleting their number will save time and effort when scrolling through your phone book.
6. Similar to #3, go through your closet and either pack up (to be lost in the attic forever), throw away, or donate any clothes you haven't worn in the past 30 days. (Exceptions are seasonal items [can't you just pack those?] or things like a suit or party dress that doesn't expect frequent use.)
7. Go shopping and buy enough of the following items to last at least 6 months :
If you can think of any other items where a) the price isn't going to change drastically b) your preference probably won't change c) the shelf life is very long, then stock up on those too. Look! You've just eliminated a serious chunk of your todo list and mindless errands for the next six months!
8. If you're disorganized, get and read Getting Things Done : The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. It will have you organized with a gameplan for staying organized easily within 1-3 days. If you're already organized, then you can just take a second and gloat.
9. Find the most expensive item you have that you don't use anymore and sell it on ebay. It will take you 10 minutes at most, plus another 30 minutes to ship (while you're at the post ofice, get 100 2 cent stamps and never worry about that again). Alternatively, just send it to me as a present.
10. Show this page to your friends! Helping out other people makes you feel better, and working on some of these things with your friends will make them more fun.
Don't just read this list and think "that's a good idea". Do it now! If you're at work, then order the books, take a break and make your first phone call while you take a walk.
I tried to fairly evenly distribute the focus between the three areas of Health, Wealth, and Relationships. Relationships has the least focus because improving your health and wealth will likely improve relationships as well. If you could use some extra help with meeting women or being attractive to them, check out my book called Make Her Chase You. I am a world famous pickup artist who has learned from the best ladies' men in the world, and I've condensed all of my knowledge into one awesome book.
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I'm 52. A white male. I haven't been able to find a real job since 2006. I do drive a taxi 7 days a week, where I am lied to and cheated out of the good calls by the dishonest diepatchers, verbally and physically abused by the passengers, and so under paid I cant hardly afford to eat most days. I have nothing to look forward to. No hope. No love in my life. So why shouldn't I just lay down some where and wait to die?
When I wake up, I do my morning ritual, then I work for 1 hour on the most important task, and then I walk to the office - it takes about 30-40 minutes, and I listen to an audiobook during that - I arrive super-energized to the office. In the evening, I walk home, too. It's AWESOME. It's the simplest way to become a super-fit genius. And if I get stuck during the workday, I will take a short walk, too.
I eat a perfect vegan diet with no refined flours, bad oils, or sugar. My poop is awesome, but wiping is still necessary.
I don't really care about biodegrading.
Hey, you missed the point! Get rid of it! Don't throw it out the balcony, the idea is that you should get rid of it. Donate it, for example.
Wet wipes bio-degrade poorly. Better to invest in a bidet or take another shower. If you eat properly in the first place then there is less to clear up and you will feel great.
Why not donate or find ways to use what you are getting rid of instead of throwing it away? Seems like a very anti-earth idea to put usable items in the garbage.
Mystery's book may or may not be good, but just visiting his site turned me off -- please kindly inform him it's not cool to hijack people's browser windows by forcing them to take up the whole screen. I've never understood why some webmasters think it's ok or a good business practice to do that.
Great tips! I especially like #5. I've written a somewhat related article "19 CrÃƒ¨me de la CrÃƒ¨me Success Principles" at http://radicalhop.com/blog/2006/06/24/19-creme-de-la-creme-success-principles/
I bought Sebastian Marshall's book, Ikigai, when it first came out. His is one of very few blogs that I read regularly, so I had high expectations for the book. And, hey... even if it's not great, I like supporting people I respect.
As soon as I bought the book, I read the first chapter. It was the blog post that I mentioned in the isolation post. Oh, I thought, I guess this book is just a bunch of blog posts that I've already read. I stopped reading.
That was six months ago. These days I read about 2-3 books per week, which means that I have a really tough time keeping my reading list full. Last week I was searching through my Kindle to see if I had any half-finished books I'd forgotten about, and I decided to give Sebastian's book another shot.
Man, am I glad I did. I'm not sure I've ever read a book with lessons that can be applied so quickly for such immediate results. Ikigai is one of the top few books I've read in 2012.
The focus of the book is rational and efficient productivity. Or at least that's what I got most out of it. If you're into that sort of thing, definitely read it.
I bought Sebastian Marshall's book, Ikigai, when it first came out. His is one of very few blogs that I read regularly, so I had high expectations for the book. And, hey... even if it's not great, I like supporting people I respect. As soon as I bought the book, I read the first chapter. It was the blog post that I mentioned in the isolation post. Oh, I thought, I guess this book is just a bunch of blog posts that I've already read. I stopped reading. That was six months ago. These days I read about 2-3 books per week, which means that I have a really tough time keeping my reading list full. Last week I was searching through my Kindle to see if I had any half-finished books I'd forgotten about, and I decided to give Sebastian's book another shot. Man, am I glad I did. I'm not sure I've ever read a book with lessons that can be applied so quickly for such immediate results. Ikigai is one of the top few books I've read in 2012. The focus of the book is rational and efficient productivity. Or at least that's what I got most out of it. If you're into that sort of thing, definitely read it. I now plan my day every morning. Sebastian shares his daily planning routine, which I used as a rough template for my own. Every morning I record the time I went to bed the night before, the time I woke up, the time I brushed my teeth, the time I finish planning, and the time I finished writing a blog post (I'm writing one every single day, but not posting them all). Recording the time you finish these things is a bit of subtle genius from Sebastian. When you record the time you finish something, you tend to do it earlier. Today I woke up and had two immediate phone calls that had to be made, which pushed my whole schedule back. As soon as I saw the time, I started doing my few morning things, including writing this post. Morning used to be my least productive time of day, but now I jump right in and start producing. The rest of day planning consists of making a todo list for yourself. You're supposed to create a list that you believe can be completed to 70%, but I've completed 90-100% every day, despite trying to make the list harder each time. It's amazing how much you can get done when you have a plan and start early. I use the tasks feature of Google Calendar for my todo list. It's not amazing, but it's good enough and keeps me looking at my calendar, which makes me more likely to schedule things and see when they're happening. At the end of the day, I do a quick five minute summary, as prescribed by Sebastian. I record whether or not I flossed, reflected on the possibility of death, and played my violin. I write down my key accomplishments for the day, my top life goals, a quick analysis of the day, and my top priority for the following day. Last, I record how many minutes I wasted, how many minutes I worked on SETT, and how many minutes I spent writing. RescueTime helps me come up with a rough estimate of these things. There's a lot more than planning your day in Ikigai, but that was the big value that I got from it. He also spends a lot of time covering the same sort of strategy and philosophies that I'm a big fan of and write about here. ### The great Alaska trip starts next Saturday. A few friends and I will be riding our motorcycles to Alaska for no real reason at all.
I was a pretty good reader as a kid. My mom recounts me sitting in the corner reading in pre-school instead of doing whatever other pre-schoolers did. In Kindergarten, I was praised for reading more books than any other kid. Throughout the elementary school summers, I dominated the summer reading programs in all the neighboring cities.
Eventually, I started to realize that all of these books are the same. Sometime when I was 10, I started to realize every book seemed to be about some derpy kid who eventually overcame his fears and saved the world, or at least his friend group.
I had the intellectual ability to read YA and adult books at the time, but not the emotional maturity. So, I hit a standstill.
Time passes on, I get into Classics (aka: any title whose name being uttered made me sound smart). I got a Kindle and subsequently got into Indie trash, at one point reading one book per day. Then the Kindle broke and I had no clue what to do.
I went through a massive overhaul on how I thought about reading, which leads us to how I read today.